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Time to Get My Groove Back

In How Stella Got Her Groove Back, Stella needed Whoopi Goldberg to convince her to take a trip to Jamaica for a little R&R (and a little Taye Diggs). Now, I wouldn’t trust anyone without eyebrows (sorry, Whoopi) and I may not looking for a stallion like Taye Diggs, but I, too, think it’s about time I got my groove back.

I get it, you’re busy, you’ve got a million things to do, places to be, and way too much to think about. I think I feel like this, well, just about everyday.

Sam Davidson recently wrote the following in his post “Simplify Your Life by Paying Someone Else to do the Work“:

“I rarely meet people who tell me they’re not busy. It seems like these days, when you ask someone, “How are you?” or “What’s up?” you get a “I’m super busy, but busy’s good!” with a forced chuckle. The world is speeding up and it’s going so fast we can’t get off.”

Last December I wrote somewhat of a “2010 Resolution” post, where I committed to making more time for myself, specifically, more time for my health. To say the least, that didn’t happen. The ‘micro blog’ I set up to track my progress? I stopped writing it on January 2nd. I know, pathetic.

Maybe I have a good excuse. I did have the busiest year of my life. I did go through being fired, starting two companies, planned a wedding, got married, moved (back) to Nashville…amidst all the transition, turmoil, and triumphs I’ve lost track of one thing: myself. And while I’ve learned more about myself mentally, I’ve neglected my own physical well-being. It’s something I need to change, need to make time for, before it becomes a problem.

Over the past 12 days I’ve ben reminiscing about all the great things that have happened this year – all the lessons I’ve learned – but thank God for today’s #reverb10 prompt, one that encourages me to really think about the most important thing I need to take care of: me.

So: That means, committing to a work out schedule, making time in my day (maybe when I’m awake at 5am) to work out, adding ‘healthy living’ to the routine, and holding myself publicly accountable. (Go ahead and add me on dailymile, let’s keep each other on track)

I know it’s cliche to make a resolution to be healthier, I know that a lot of folks end up like I did this year, making a resolution that lasts a few days after January 1st, but this is a lifestyle decision. It’s me taking more time for myself, becoming a guy who doesn’t give the “I’m super busy, but busy’s good!” response when someone asks “How are you”?

Here’s to being more “integrated”. You know, that whole mind-body connection thing. I hear it’s pretty awesome.

What will you do in 2011 to make more time for yourself? Is ‘healthy’ living on your list of resolutions? How will you stay on track?

Check out the full rundown of my #reverb10 posts here

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  1. I don’t normally make resolutions but I am working out a way to be more physically active in 2011. More specifically, I want to start hiking several times a month. It was one of my favourite activities of all time as a kid and I’d like to get back into it.

    Right now I’m staying on track by researching places I want to visit in the spring. I’m also taking long walks several days a week and lifting some light weights to get into better physical shape for my goal.

    Your first question is much more difficult. I haven’t figured out the answer to it yet. :)

    It’s exciting!

  2. wow Matt. You really hit a nerve there. I too have been making resolutions to get healthier but then amidst all the noise and madness of work and ‘life’, the main thing I lost track of was me!!

    The good news is I did get back on track half way through 2010 (and lost 15lbs yay!) but then with victory came complacence and a sense of easing up. If I miss a couple of workouts ain’t no biggie, then it’s if I miss a week that’s alright, to now missing a consecutive 2 months after doing so well!

    So here’s to getting my groove back too, but this time I’ve also thrown in some life coaching – I realized I needed to better “integrate” as you said and have a more holistic life balance … I must say, having someone there for you, asking you the tough questions and holding you accountable is definitely worth it! Thanks for the reminder :-)

    • Congrats on all you’ve accomplished this year – that’s great! And I know what you mean here – it was to be a lifestyle choice, not a weight loss plan – the latter is nearly impossible to maintain and keep up with, the former is something that, once a habit, is just that, something that you make a part of your routine. After all this time, it’s always great to have you around here, Shereen. I hope all is well!

  3. AMEN, Matt. I am so with you. Since we’re both early risers, let’s work out “together” in the am, yeah? I also need to spend more time on me and I’m working on it.

    I love your reverb10 entries and, though I haven’t blogged in a long time, I’m working on getting my butt back into gear and am considering a microblog or blog series or something on the Happiness Project. Care to join in the fun and happiness with me?

  4. Oh man… how many articles have I written about this very topic? Quite a few. Hell, I just built a program to deal with this. Everyone struggles with this… especially if one is focused on their big dreams and goals.

    Stoked that you wrote this article. I’m really inspired by everything you’re up to. It’s nice to know that you are human and have to work at staying balanced just like everyone else. :)

    • I love your enthusiasm, Betty. I’m equally inspired by everything you’re doing. It’s folks like you who are doing great things that keep me motivated to doing great things in my own life. And yes, as much as it may surprise some, I am, in fact, human :)

  5. Woohoo! Go Matt! I sent you a request on DailyMile. I love that site. :) I fell down the stairs in October, hurt my knee, and have used that excuse to stay on the couch. So bad. :( I have such high hopes of being my ideal weight again. I took a good hard look at my license the other day when I was carded at a bar. The picture of me looks great and my weight is so not what it used to be and I KNOW I can change that! Just need to do it. :)

  6. He came into my life, ignited a fire, used my need to be loved to get everything he wanted and he took me to the edge of my sanity over 5 years or so. I haven’t been the same since. I don’t feel sensual or sexy anymore, I have no interest in human contact. I keep everyone away. I feel like I am just existing. I want my funk and my fire back but I can’t seem to find it. It feels like it is gone. Died.