The Inconvenience of Change

May 4, 2009 · 76 comments

There is no EVOLUTION without a REVOLUTION

You can’t do everything, but you can do a lot

Change. What does it mean? Why, as a generation, as a society, as humans – are we so obsessed with the idea of change? And if we’re so obsessed with bringing about change, why are so few of us actually doing anything? Has it lost it’s meaning – has it become something sexy to write and talk about in order to spark discussion which ultimately leads to nothing?

When we talk about change – we look at the big picture. We want to save the environment, we want to end world hunger, we want to bring world peace. This, ultimately, is the inherent flaw in our thought process. We’re thinking too big. We all want to change the world by ourselves – but I’ll let you in on a secret…it’s impossible. There is no way that you or I can take it on alone. One person can not and will not ever do everything, but one person can do something, one person can do a lot, one person can set a spark that stares a wildfire of change throughout their community.

Be the change you want to see in the world

Think about it – the world doesn’t need to be changed, we need to change ourselves. We talk about ‘going green’ in order to save the environment – but the environment doesn’t need saving except for our own benefit.. The environment is only at the point of needing to be saved because we have been slowly killing Mother Nature for thousands of years, she would be much better off if none of us existed and we would just leave her alone.

The point I’m illustrating is that change comes from within, and it’s OK to be selfish, it’s OK to change for yourself. No one can tell you to change, no one can make you believe something. You have to want to – and you have to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone, try new things, and become a selfless human being. All of these are much easier said than done. Changing the world is bigger than us, and when we’re facing such a monumental task, it’s easy to say, “What can I possibly do that will make a difference?” – and the answer is, “A lot”…

Over the past couple months I’ve done a lot of thinking about change – I’ve spent countless hours contemplating what I can do with my life and my career that is profitable, self fulfilling, and beneficial to society. Through this thought process,  I’ve been inspired by many people around me who share similar passions. Selfless, dedicated individuals who genuinely want to make a difference and serve others.

But don’t take my word for it

So I reached out to them, and the response was overwhelming. I asked some of my peers to take some time to look within themselves and to think about change, and more specifically, how people struggle with it.

Throughout the month of May at Life Without Pants, the spotlight is coming off of yours truly. I am so proud to have gathered some of the most intelligent and insightful thinkers of our generation. This month, Akhila Kolisetty, Ruby Ku, Eva Rykr, Carlos Miceli, Grace Boyle, Samantha Karol, Jun Loayza, Shereen Qutob, Rikin Diwan, and maybe a few others will share their thoughts on the ‘Inconvenience of Change’.

I promise you each article will offer you a fresh, inspirational perspective on change, what it means, and why it’s important. By the end of the month, you’ll have all the inspirational tools you need to get out there and start enacting change into your own lives. I believe, and I think I speak for most of us when I say that raising awareness, writing about social change, and inspiring others is half the battle. If your questioning your own impact and influence, if you need your role in all of this more clearly defined, these next few weeks will provide you with an outlet for your own self-realization.

Get involved in discussion – question others – challenge yourself - raise doubt – face your fears. Change is scary for most of us, we fear the unknown. It’s never easy and it always involves work. That work, the effort involved in making a difference, THAT’S the part that stops most people. Don’t let it anymore. Today is the day you stop TELLING yourself “I’m going to change”. Today is the day that you actually start doing it.

“They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself” -Andy Warhol

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  • http://akhilak.com/blog Akhila

    Great post Matt and I can’t wait to see the series take off! I’m excited. I do agree with you – change has to come from within first if we are really to make a difference. The thing is, if you are taking action to change yourself for the better – others will notice and be inspired, and just through the action of improving yourself you’re reaching other people. Be the change you want to see – it’s the first step, and perhaps the most important one.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Can’t wait to see the series take off? I just initiated the launch sequence, we’ve officially taken off! :P – In all seriousness, you and everyone else poured your heart and soul into this and everyone is going to be extremely impressed, and hopefully challenged and inspired to look within themselves and DO instead of TRY – or at least TRY instead of THINK.

      You make a very good point – If you improve yourself, other people will notice, which means, either directly or indirectly, you are making a difference, your having an impact on other people – start from within, and you’ll be surprised at what one person can accomplish.

  • http://akhilak.com/blog Akhila

    Great post Matt and I can’t wait to see the series take off! I’m excited. I do agree with you – change has to come from within first if we are really to make a difference. The thing is, if you are taking action to change yourself for the better – others will notice and be inspired, and just through the action of improving yourself you’re reaching other people. Be the change you want to see – it’s the first step, and perhaps the most important one.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Can’t wait to see the series take off? I just initiated the launch sequence, we’ve officially taken off! :P – In all seriousness, you and everyone else poured your heart and soul into this and everyone is going to be extremely impressed, and hopefully challenged and inspired to look within themselves and DO instead of TRY – or at least TRY instead of THINK.

      You make a very good point – If you improve yourself, other people will notice, which means, either directly or indirectly, you are making a difference, your having an impact on other people – start from within, and you’ll be surprised at what one person can accomplish.

  • http://www.opheliaswebb.com/ Elisa

    Matt, definitely looking forward to this. I feel the revolution starting…

    As for why people don’t change, I think the phrase “the devil you know” is very appropriate. Though you may have the deep down desire to make change, to start change, to be change, it’s scary and hard to take that step into the unknown.

    For me, that’s the challenge. It’s easy to sit behind my computer and write the thoughts of what I’d like to do, but putting them into actual action its whole new ballgame. My shyness and fear of losing control completely take over and though my dreams are lofty my follow thru is sometimes lacking. It’s a danger of any blogger I think…making sure to walk to walk rather than just writing the talk.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Elisa – you are spot on here – most of us bloggers are pretty intelligent people, and we have something inside of us that makes us want to reach out and inspire people. Otherwise, why would we be writing? Or at least, why would we be writing with such conviction and purpose? It’s not for ourselves, it’s to get what’s inside of us out there for other people to hear.

      I think we’re quick to negate the fact that blogging, writing, speaking about change – IS change. Raising awareness is a big part of it – challenging people to look within themselves, being able to connect with your readers on a personal level – that’s HUGE. That’s one of the primary goals I have here at my blog – to CHALLENGE people and to make them think. It doesn’t always happen, but hopefully I actually do that from time to time.

      That being said – getting out there and actually doing it is obviously the other big part of it, nobody likes a hypocrite. I think the key is FINDING SOMETHING YOUR PASSIONATE ABOUT. We all can’t change everything – but I bet that anyone reading this can think of at least one thing they wish was different, either in their own lives or in the society we live in – whether it’s something broad like the environment, genocide in Darfur, or specific like leaving a job you hate, starting a blog, etc. Find that thing that you can really become an advocate of and get out there and do it!

  • http://www.opheliaswebb.com Elisa

    Matt, definitely looking forward to this. I feel the revolution starting…

    As for why people don’t change, I think the phrase “the devil you know” is very appropriate. Though you may have the deep down desire to make change, to start change, to be change, it’s scary and hard to take that step into the unknown.

    For me, that’s the challenge. It’s easy to sit behind my computer and write the thoughts of what I’d like to do, but putting them into actual action its whole new ballgame. My shyness and fear of losing control completely take over and though my dreams are lofty my follow thru is sometimes lacking. It’s a danger of any blogger I think…making sure to walk to walk rather than just writing the talk.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Elisa – you are spot on here – most of us bloggers are pretty intelligent people, and we have something inside of us that makes us want to reach out and inspire people. Otherwise, why would we be writing? Or at least, why would we be writing with such conviction and purpose? It’s not for ourselves, it’s to get what’s inside of us out there for other people to hear.

      I think we’re quick to negate the fact that blogging, writing, speaking about change – IS change. Raising awareness is a big part of it – challenging people to look within themselves, being able to connect with your readers on a personal level – that’s HUGE. That’s one of the primary goals I have here at my blog – to CHALLENGE people and to make them think. It doesn’t always happen, but hopefully I actually do that from time to time.

      That being said – getting out there and actually doing it is obviously the other big part of it, nobody likes a hypocrite. I think the key is FINDING SOMETHING YOUR PASSIONATE ABOUT. We all can’t change everything – but I bet that anyone reading this can think of at least one thing they wish was different, either in their own lives or in the society we live in – whether it’s something broad like the environment, genocide in Darfur, or specific like leaving a job you hate, starting a blog, etc. Find that thing that you can really become an advocate of and get out there and do it!

  • http://leagaldunki.wordpress.com/ Kristina

    I am really excited for this series!!! May is going to be a great month. Thank you for having this idea and starting this series.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Thanks Kristina – I’m looking forward to seeing it develop. I think engaging in these ‘group collaborations’ on important topics and issues is something I want to really continue doing. If the turnout for this was any indication, there are a ton of bloggers out there who are ready and willing to contribute.

      If you would like to add a post of your own – the offer is on the table for you (and anyone reading this). We have a schedule in place for the people already involved, but I can always make room for more – I at least encourage you share some wisdom in the comments of others articles!

  • http://leagaldunki.wordpress.com Kristina

    I am really excited for this series!!! May is going to be a great month. Thank you for having this idea and starting this series.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Thanks Kristina – I’m looking forward to seeing it develop. I think engaging in these ‘group collaborations’ on important topics and issues is something I want to really continue doing. If the turnout for this was any indication, there are a ton of bloggers out there who are ready and willing to contribute.

      If you would like to add a post of your own – the offer is on the table for you (and anyone reading this). We have a schedule in place for the people already involved, but I can always make room for more – I at least encourage you share some wisdom in the comments of others articles!

  • http://twitter.com/CarlosMic Carlos Miceli

    Change comes from within. Not only that’s the best approach, it’s the ONLY approach.

    The world is too diversified, too divided, there are way too many interests and points of view to be able to change the world singlehandledly.

    By changing oneself, the change spreads. It’s just a matter of reflecting what we say with our actions, so that change can be seen by others.

    Great post, and this series will be awesome.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Agreed Carlos – those people who get caught up in ‘changing the world’ are usually the ones who end up never doing anything. This is one of the rare cases that taking a step back and looking at the ‘big picture’ isn’t the best way to go about it. Start from within, ignite a spark in your own communities and networks, and watch it grow from there.

      Sam Davidson of Cool People Care (http://www.coolpeoplecare.org) is a great example of someone who leads by example. He is exemplifying what it means to be a social entrepreneur – doing business but doing it the right way, and raising awareness, giving back to the community. He came and spoke to a class while I was in college – we connected afterward, grabbed coffee, and now we’re good friends. I continue to learn a lot from him and model a lot of what I do after what he has done and the success he’s had.

      The motto for his company speaks volumes and connects directly with what we’re talking about here. They strive to ‘Change the World – 5 Minutes at a Time’ – focusing on the small things that add up to BIG changes. That’s what it’s all about!

      And your right, the series will be great – glad to have you as part of it man!

  • http://twitter.com/CarlosMic Carlos Miceli

    Change comes from within. Not only that’s the best approach, it’s the ONLY approach.

    The world is too diversified, too divided, there are way too many interests and points of view to be able to change the world singlehandledly.

    By changing oneself, the change spreads. It’s just a matter of reflecting what we say with our actions, so that change can be seen by others.

    Great post, and this series will be awesome.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Agreed Carlos – those people who get caught up in ‘changing the world’ are usually the ones who end up never doing anything. This is one of the rare cases that taking a step back and looking at the ‘big picture’ isn’t the best way to go about it. Start from within, ignite a spark in your own communities and networks, and watch it grow from there.

      Sam Davidson of Cool People Care (http://www.coolpeoplecare.org) is a great example of someone who leads by example. He is exemplifying what it means to be a social entrepreneur – doing business but doing it the right way, and raising awareness, giving back to the community. He came and spoke to a class while I was in college – we connected afterward, grabbed coffee, and now we’re good friends. I continue to learn a lot from him and model a lot of what I do after what he has done and the success he’s had.

      The motto for his company speaks volumes and connects directly with what we’re talking about here. They strive to ‘Change the World – 5 Minutes at a Time’ – focusing on the small things that add up to BIG changes. That’s what it’s all about!

      And your right, the series will be great – glad to have you as part of it man!

  • http://smallhandsbigideas.com/ Grace

    Matt-

    So looking forward to reading these. I think there is some powerful writing to be seen here soon–really making us contemplate the idea of change and how we can each, be the change we wish to see in the World!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      The next month will, if nothing else, make you think about yourself and your own personal impact. I’m excited to share so many unique perspectives with everyone (we’ve had a couple more people jump on board who read this and decided they wanted to be a part of the series as well.

      Thanks for being a part of it and lending your own wisdom Grace!

  • http://smallhandsbigideas.com Grace

    Matt-

    So looking forward to reading these. I think there is some powerful writing to be seen here soon–really making us contemplate the idea of change and how we can each, be the change we wish to see in the World!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      The next month will, if nothing else, make you think about yourself and your own personal impact. I’m excited to share so many unique perspectives with everyone (we’ve had a couple more people jump on board who read this and decided they wanted to be a part of the series as well.

      Thanks for being a part of it and lending your own wisdom Grace!

  • http://www.lifeschocolates.com/ Sam

    Matt-what a great start to the series! I can’t wait to see what everyone has to say. I have a poster hanging in my closet at home that I got at the Holocaust Museum in D.C. It proudly displays this famous quote by Margaret Mead: “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” So often, people assume that they can’t make a difference on their own, but with that assumption, they’re not giving themselves (or others) enough credit. We can make a difference, we just have to be willing to work together and commit, no matter how daunting the task.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Sam, I think you make a great point that extends my thought process here – it has to start with ourselves, we have to change from within, but beyond that, we have to be willing to work together – that’s when change, noticeable change, really happens. It’s when people join together to achieve common goals we can realize clear and objective results. I think that is what’s beginning here – or at least what I hope this series creates. Raising awareness and inspiring people to look within, discover their passions, and start making changes to DO instead of TRY.

      Thanks so much for the comment – I’m excited to be able to share your take on change as a part of this series.

  • http://www.lifeschocolates.com Sam

    Matt-what a great start to the series! I can’t wait to see what everyone has to say. I have a poster hanging in my closet at home that I got at the Holocaust Museum in D.C. It proudly displays this famous quote by Margaret Mead: “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” So often, people assume that they can’t make a difference on their own, but with that assumption, they’re not giving themselves (or others) enough credit. We can make a difference, we just have to be willing to work together and commit, no matter how daunting the task.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Sam, I think you make a great point that extends my thought process here – it has to start with ourselves, we have to change from within, but beyond that, we have to be willing to work together – that’s when change, noticeable change, really happens. It’s when people join together to achieve common goals we can realize clear and objective results. I think that is what’s beginning here – or at least what I hope this series creates. Raising awareness and inspiring people to look within, discover their passions, and start making changes to DO instead of TRY.

      Thanks so much for the comment – I’m excited to be able to share your take on change as a part of this series.

  • http://www.marketspaceanalytics.com/ Ken

    Hi Matt,

    Here’s a change quote for you: “There is nothing permanent except change.” Heroclitus said that in 500 B.C. TWO THOUSAND FIVE HUNDRED YEARS AGO!

    Even those of us who welcome change, often fight it when it effects us in a way we’d prefer that it did not. But, it is probably the only constant, and the challenge is always having the patience to see what’s going to come from it and how we will benefit from it if we choose to.

    Cheers!
    Ken

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Ken – thanks so much for coming by and sharing some insight on this. I’m glad to see that you’ve become a part of the community I’ve created here. You make an extremely important point in that change is inevitable, it is the only constant, everything around us is constantly going through changes, and as you said, it’s up to us to determine how we will deal will embrace it.

      Patience is critical – I think so many of us want change, and we want it now. There are so many people who expected Obama to take office and instantly turn the country around – which is an impossible task. And now that he hasn’t enacted the ‘change’ he promised during his campaign, people are overly critical, claiming he talked the talk, but now is not walking the walk.

      Change and patience go hand in hand. You can’t change the world in a day, no matter who you are. But through passion, dedication, and conviction, one person can have a huge impact on the world around them.

      Thanks again Ken – I hope you’ll keep reading and speaking your mind around here, it’s more than welcomed!

  • http://www.marketspaceanalytics.com Ken

    Hi Matt,

    Here’s a change quote for you: “There is nothing permanent except change.” Heroclitus said that in 500 B.C. TWO THOUSAND FIVE HUNDRED YEARS AGO!

    Even those of us who welcome change, often fight it when it effects us in a way we’d prefer that it did not. But, it is probably the only constant, and the challenge is always having the patience to see what’s going to come from it and how we will benefit from it if we choose to.

    Cheers!
    Ken

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Ken – thanks so much for coming by and sharing some insight on this. I’m glad to see that you’ve become a part of the community I’ve created here. You make an extremely important point in that change is inevitable, it is the only constant, everything around us is constantly going through changes, and as you said, it’s up to us to determine how we will deal will embrace it.

      Patience is critical – I think so many of us want change, and we want it now. There are so many people who expected Obama to take office and instantly turn the country around – which is an impossible task. And now that he hasn’t enacted the ‘change’ he promised during his campaign, people are overly critical, claiming he talked the talk, but now is not walking the walk.

      Change and patience go hand in hand. You can’t change the world in a day, no matter who you are. But through passion, dedication, and conviction, one person can have a huge impact on the world around them.

      Thanks again Ken – I hope you’ll keep reading and speaking your mind around here, it’s more than welcomed!

  • http://www.youthassembly.ca/ Mandy

    Hey Matt,

    Two thumbs up! As you probably know, having read and responded to my email (thanks), I’m all about the change and I am interested to see where you take this. I will admit that I will be watching critically seeing as how this topic is very near and dear to my heart (and profession, after all) because part of changing is accepting that not everyone is going to see eye to eye about what changes are necessary. But I am very excited to see what will come out of this.

    “Be the change you wish to see in the world”–Gandhi (also one of the increasingly most overused phrases ever…but it’s so damn true!”

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Hola Mandy!

      It is overused – I even second-guessed myself when I included it in this post in fear of beating a dead horse – but as they say, some things are timeless, and that little Gandhi quote speaks volumes about you and I acting as ‘vessels’ of change.

      I welcome your critical eye on this topic – as I said in the post above, I hope that we will challenge one another throughout the series this month. While accolades and agreement is all fine and well, as you said, we won’t all see eye to eye – as long as there is a mutual understanding that we can agree to disagree, I predict we’ll have some very engaging and eye-opening discussion ahead of us.

      Thanks for getting involved, and I look forward to your input and insight!

  • http://www.youthassembly.ca Mandy

    Hey Matt,

    Two thumbs up! As you probably know, having read and responded to my email (thanks), I’m all about the change and I am interested to see where you take this. I will admit that I will be watching critically seeing as how this topic is very near and dear to my heart (and profession, after all) because part of changing is accepting that not everyone is going to see eye to eye about what changes are necessary. But I am very excited to see what will come out of this.

    “Be the change you wish to see in the world”–Gandhi (also one of the increasingly most overused phrases ever…but it’s so damn true!”

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Hola Mandy!

      It is overused – I even second-guessed myself when I included it in this post in fear of beating a dead horse – but as they say, some things are timeless, and that little Gandhi quote speaks volumes about you and I acting as ‘vessels’ of change.

      I welcome your critical eye on this topic – as I said in the post above, I hope that we will challenge one another throughout the series this month. While accolades and agreement is all fine and well, as you said, we won’t all see eye to eye – as long as there is a mutual understanding that we can agree to disagree, I predict we’ll have some very engaging and eye-opening discussion ahead of us.

      Thanks for getting involved, and I look forward to your input and insight!

  • http://www.intersectedblog.com/ Jamie

    Really looking forward to this series! It’s a great idea and I know we’ll all learn from it.

    Thanks for putting it together!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Thanks for coming by Jamie – I have no doubt that we’ll be able to all teach each other and learn something through the conversation and dialogue these posts will inspire!

  • http://www.intersectedblog.com Jamie

    Really looking forward to this series! It’s a great idea and I know we’ll all learn from it.

    Thanks for putting it together!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Thanks for coming by Jamie – I have no doubt that we’ll be able to all teach each other and learn something through the conversation and dialogue these posts will inspire!

  • http://twentyorsomething.com/ Susan Pogorzelski

    Matt – What a great post and a terrific series you’re kicking off! You really have gathered some of the most insightful bloggers around, and I’m looking forward to hearing what each of them has to say.

    What I love about your post above, in particular, is this: “change comes from within, and it’s OK to be selfish, it’s OK to change for yourself. No one can tell you to change, no one can make you believe something. You have to want to – and you have to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone, try new things, and become a selfless human being.”

    This was so well said and struck a huge cord with me. I think sometimes people are afraid of personally changing because it does seem selfish. And people on the outside tend to form impressions and block them in so that when someone does want to change, leave their comfort zone, they’re sometimes met with contention. But change is incredibly personal and change, as I’ve learned and am still learning, can lead to incredible things. Change yourself for the better and maybe you change a small part of the world as well.

    Anyway, fantastic post and can’t wait to see what’s in store!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      I am a very extroverted person, but when it comes to faith, advocacy, change, etc. I become very introverted and see it as a journey within. You have to look inward before you can react outwardly.

      I’m glad someone picked up and connected with the point I made on being selfish about change – I am 100% behind that notion that it’s ok to be selfish. You don’t HAVE to change for the guy across the country who’s living in the streets of Darfur, struggling to survive – or at least you don’t have to think about change in that regard. You can think about how it will have an impact on you to perform a selfless act. I’m starting to ramble (it’s getting late) but I believe change can be bot selfless AND selfish.

      Thanks so much for coming by Susan – I’m glad to know that you’ll be involved throughout this month-long extravaganza!

  • http://twentyorsomething.com Susan Pogorzelski

    Matt – What a great post and a terrific series you’re kicking off! You really have gathered some of the most insightful bloggers around, and I’m looking forward to hearing what each of them has to say.

    What I love about your post above, in particular, is this: “change comes from within, and it’s OK to be selfish, it’s OK to change for yourself. No one can tell you to change, no one can make you believe something. You have to want to – and you have to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone, try new things, and become a selfless human being.”

    This was so well said and struck a huge cord with me. I think sometimes people are afraid of personally changing because it does seem selfish. And people on the outside tend to form impressions and block them in so that when someone does want to change, leave their comfort zone, they’re sometimes met with contention. But change is incredibly personal and change, as I’ve learned and am still learning, can lead to incredible things. Change yourself for the better and maybe you change a small part of the world as well.

    Anyway, fantastic post and can’t wait to see what’s in store!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      I am a very extroverted person, but when it comes to faith, advocacy, change, etc. I become very introverted and see it as a journey within. You have to look inward before you can react outwardly.

      I’m glad someone picked up and connected with the point I made on being selfish about change – I am 100% behind that notion that it’s ok to be selfish. You don’t HAVE to change for the guy across the country who’s living in the streets of Darfur, struggling to survive – or at least you don’t have to think about change in that regard. You can think about how it will have an impact on you to perform a selfless act. I’m starting to ramble (it’s getting late) but I believe change can be bot selfless AND selfish.

      Thanks so much for coming by Susan – I’m glad to know that you’ll be involved throughout this month-long extravaganza!

  • http://rubyku.blogspot.com/ Ruby

    LOVE the quote you put at the end: “They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself” -Andy Warhol

    So true eh?

    Thanks again for putting this together. I won’t be around to see the series unfold, but definitely looking forward to come back and read all the posts AND comments when I settle in my new home!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      So many of us wait on the world to change (thanks John Mayer) that we neglect to realize that in order to experience change, we have to be the force that creates it.

      I’m glad that you’re a part of this – and I’ll be sure to (at least) have yours up before you head far and away – but you will definitely have to come back around and read the others – I know that you especially will appreciate what the rest of the folks involved have to say.

  • http://rubyku.blogspot.com Ruby

    LOVE the quote you put at the end: “They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself” -Andy Warhol

    So true eh?

    Thanks again for putting this together. I won’t be around to see the series unfold, but definitely looking forward to come back and read all the posts AND comments when I settle in my new home!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      So many of us wait on the world to change (thanks John Mayer) that we neglect to realize that in order to experience change, we have to be the force that creates it.

      I’m glad that you’re a part of this – and I’ll be sure to (at least) have yours up before you head far and away – but you will definitely have to come back around and read the others – I know that you especially will appreciate what the rest of the folks involved have to say.

  • http://benjamintwilcox.com Benjamin

    What a great idea! I am sure that it will inspire great writing and compelling ideas. I can’t what to read what is coming up next.

    The ability and desire to change the world needs to be harnessed to affect the world as soon as possible. There is no longer time to wait for someone else, we need to be the change ourselves.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Ben – I agree that waiting, and looking toward others (think Barack Obama) to bring about change is the wrong mindset. Change doesn’t come from the top down, it’s the exact opposite – it starts with an idea, it starts with you and me, it starts with raising awareness on a blog, getting 20 other people to get passionately involved in an online community – then those 20 people inspiring 20 others, and so on, and so on – then turning that into real-life action. It’s all a process and a test of patience and conviction.

      If you’re out there looking for someone to change the world for the better – the first person you should look at is yourself…

  • http://benjamintwilcox.com/ Benjamin

    What a great idea! I am sure that it will inspire great writing and compelling ideas. I can’t what to read what is coming up next.

    The ability and desire to change the world needs to be harnessed to affect the world as soon as possible. There is no longer time to wait for someone else, we need to be the change ourselves.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Ben – I agree that waiting, and looking toward others (think Barack Obama) to bring about change is the wrong mindset. Change doesn’t come from the top down, it’s the exact opposite – it starts with an idea, it starts with you and me, it starts with raising awareness on a blog, getting 20 other people to get passionately involved in an online community – then those 20 people inspiring 20 others, and so on, and so on – then turning that into real-life action. It’s all a process and a test of patience and conviction.

      If you’re out there looking for someone to change the world for the better – the first person you should look at is yourself…

  • http://www.renjie.ca/ Renjie

    Hey Matt,

    Dude, you rock! You’re definitely onto something with this series, and I am certainly looking forward to reading and joining in on the discussion. I loved how you included the Andy Warhol quote, one of my favorites, and I especially enjoyed reading people’s comments to your post as well.

    Here are some of my thoughts on social change:

    Truly disruptive social change, I feel, can only be achieved if there is a shift in cultural mindset. In other words, change can only be brought about if people at the individual level, begin to think of themselves and their surround community/culture differently.

    As an example of a shift in cultural mindset, take the issue of breast cancer awareness. 20 plus years ago, breast cancer was an issue that was not discussed in the public sphere, you could not even say the word ‘breast’ on tv or in the mainstream media, let alone discuss the issues of what it was like to suffer with breast cancer, and not having that support network of family and friends around you to help you through it. At some point, people began to think of the issue and of themselves differently, and decided that no, it was NOT OK to hide in the shadows anymore. Fast-foward to today and there are hundreds of breast cancer awareness organizations and events, with October itself being breast cancer awareness month; and where thousands upon thousands of people participate in these events each year, with the goal of raising awareness of breast cancer, how to detect early signs, where to go to find treatment as well as where to find a support network.

    Perhaps this is where us bloggers come in, we can continue to have discussions online around the topic of social change, inviting more and more people to take part in these discussions – and it definitely seems like this series is a great start.

    However, another thing about a shift in cultural mindset that we often forget is that it certainly takes time, a lot of time. In this day and age of instant gratification, where news cycles are getting shorter and shorter every day and where we expect an immediate response to everything that we do, we almost always forget time is a very important factor.

    From the Philia website, http://www.philia.ca/cms_en/page1090.cfm

    “To change the way people act, you have to give them time to change the way they think. Otherwise we should not be surprised if people continue to act in the same ways despite the best of intentions.” – Philia dialogue participant

    I also agree 100% with you on your point about Obama, how everyone expected him to deliver the ‘change’ he spoke of during the campaign trail as soon as he became POTUS, without realizing that Obama himself, is only one man. He can’t do it alone.

    To bring this closer to home, let me pose a question for everyone out there…

    When did we as a community decide that it was ok not to know our neighbours? How many people personally know the names of the people living next door to them, whether it be in the suburbs, an apartment building or even downtown in a major city?

    Perhaps this shift in mindset CAN start at home, and it can start with getting to know your local community better – your neighbours, your local community organizations, local businesses, etc, which does not necessarily have to be mutually exclusive with your online community either. Perhaps when we begin to see ourselves as part of the fabric of a larger community, both local as well as online, we can begin to think and then act differently, thus affecting ‘social change’.

    On that note, this search for an online ‘community’ is definitely one of the main reasons why I was drawn and felt the need to respond to this ‘change’ series on your bog. That, and I recognize many familiar names from Twitter as well :)

    Looking forward to hearing everyone’s thoughts.

    Cheers,
    Renjie

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Welcome Renjie! Always great to see a new face around these parts – shows that somehow, I’m reaching out to new people, and experiencing community growth is always a positive thing.

      You make several very good points. You illustrate that the awareness isn’t there until we make it apparent. Breast cancer, as you said, was taboo and rarely discussed 20 years ago, but now it is one of the most recognized causes in America – it’s a disease that has effected almost all of us in some facet – but it shouldn’t take it ‘hitting home’ for you to make a change. It shouldn’t take a family member passing away from cancer to make you care – I guess, as with a lot of things I talk about here on the blog, protectiveness goes a long way – don’t wait for change to happen, bring about change yourself. I think that’s the theme I was really trying to express with my post here.

      Second – patience is so important. We can’t expect to do everything in a day, a month, a year, several years, heck it may take a life-long commitment to see results of your passions and desires. And as you put very well, we have to realize that we are a small piece to the puzzle. But, what good is a puzzle without the missing piece? That piece is you, it’s me, it’s each one of us, as individuals. We have to recognize our importance to this overall ‘puzzle’ of life, and in doing so, we help others do the same.

      I’m glad your online travels have brought you here Renjie – and I hope you will return often and lend your insight. Cheers to you as well!

  • http://www.renjie.ca Renjie

    Hey Matt,

    Dude, you rock! You’re definitely onto something with this series, and I am certainly looking forward to reading and joining in on the discussion. I loved how you included the Andy Warhol quote, one of my favorites, and I especially enjoyed reading people’s comments to your post as well.

    Here are some of my thoughts on social change:

    Truly disruptive social change, I feel, can only be achieved if there is a shift in cultural mindset. In other words, change can only be brought about if people at the individual level, begin to think of themselves and their surround community/culture differently.

    As an example of a shift in cultural mindset, take the issue of breast cancer awareness. 20 plus years ago, breast cancer was an issue that was not discussed in the public sphere, you could not even say the word ‘breast’ on tv or in the mainstream media, let alone discuss the issues of what it was like to suffer with breast cancer, and not having that support network of family and friends around you to help you through it. At some point, people began to think of the issue and of themselves differently, and decided that no, it was NOT OK to hide in the shadows anymore. Fast-foward to today and there are hundreds of breast cancer awareness organizations and events, with October itself being breast cancer awareness month; and where thousands upon thousands of people participate in these events each year, with the goal of raising awareness of breast cancer, how to detect early signs, where to go to find treatment as well as where to find a support network.

    Perhaps this is where us bloggers come in, we can continue to have discussions online around the topic of social change, inviting more and more people to take part in these discussions – and it definitely seems like this series is a great start.

    However, another thing about a shift in cultural mindset that we often forget is that it certainly takes time, a lot of time. In this day and age of instant gratification, where news cycles are getting shorter and shorter every day and where we expect an immediate response to everything that we do, we almost always forget time is a very important factor.

    From the Philia website, http://www.philia.ca/cms_en/page1090.cfm

    “To change the way people act, you have to give them time to change the way they think. Otherwise we should not be surprised if people continue to act in the same ways despite the best of intentions.” – Philia dialogue participant

    I also agree 100% with you on your point about Obama, how everyone expected him to deliver the ‘change’ he spoke of during the campaign trail as soon as he became POTUS, without realizing that Obama himself, is only one man. He can’t do it alone.

    To bring this closer to home, let me pose a question for everyone out there…

    When did we as a community decide that it was ok not to know our neighbours? How many people personally know the names of the people living next door to them, whether it be in the suburbs, an apartment building or even downtown in a major city?

    Perhaps this shift in mindset CAN start at home, and it can start with getting to know your local community better – your neighbours, your local community organizations, local businesses, etc, which does not necessarily have to be mutually exclusive with your online community either. Perhaps when we begin to see ourselves as part of the fabric of a larger community, both local as well as online, we can begin to think and then act differently, thus affecting ‘social change’.

    On that note, this search for an online ‘community’ is definitely one of the main reasons why I was drawn and felt the need to respond to this ‘change’ series on your bog. That, and I recognize many familiar names from Twitter as well :)

    Looking forward to hearing everyone’s thoughts.

    Cheers,
    Renjie

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Welcome Renjie! Always great to see a new face around these parts – shows that somehow, I’m reaching out to new people, and experiencing community growth is always a positive thing.

      You make several very good points. You illustrate that the awareness isn’t there until we make it apparent. Breast cancer, as you said, was taboo and rarely discussed 20 years ago, but now it is one of the most recognized causes in America – it’s a disease that has effected almost all of us in some facet – but it shouldn’t take it ‘hitting home’ for you to make a change. It shouldn’t take a family member passing away from cancer to make you care – I guess, as with a lot of things I talk about here on the blog, protectiveness goes a long way – don’t wait for change to happen, bring about change yourself. I think that’s the theme I was really trying to express with my post here.

      Second – patience is so important. We can’t expect to do everything in a day, a month, a year, several years, heck it may take a life-long commitment to see results of your passions and desires. And as you put very well, we have to realize that we are a small piece to the puzzle. But, what good is a puzzle without the missing piece? That piece is you, it’s me, it’s each one of us, as individuals. We have to recognize our importance to this overall ‘puzzle’ of life, and in doing so, we help others do the same.

      I’m glad your online travels have brought you here Renjie – and I hope you will return often and lend your insight. Cheers to you as well!

  • http://twitter.com/shereenqc Shereen

    Excellent kick-off Matt!

    Thanks again for the opportunity to be part of this ‘revolution’. I am really psyched.

    Without a doubt, change must come from within.

    I’m really looking forward to reading all the posts and engaging in some serious dialogue.

    Best,
    Shereen

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Shereen – thanks so much, it looks like, if nothing else, I created a nice buzz for the series and there appears to be real excitement from the community (rightfully so – it’s going to be great). Thanks so much for being a part of this and bringing your voice to the discussion!

  • http://twitter.com/shereenqc Shereen

    Excellent kick-off Matt!

    Thanks again for the opportunity to be part of this ‘revolution’. I am really psyched.

    Without a doubt, change must come from within.

    I’m really looking forward to reading all the posts and engaging in some serious dialogue.

    Best,
    Shereen

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Shereen – thanks so much, it looks like, if nothing else, I created a nice buzz for the series and there appears to be real excitement from the community (rightfully so – it’s going to be great). Thanks so much for being a part of this and bringing your voice to the discussion!

  • http://www.thewriterbabeseries.com/ Raven

    Wow. Loads of responses here. I’ll admit that I am curious to see what these bloggers will talk about. Some I’m familiar with, some not. It will be great to see a whole new ideas and approaches to of (r)evolutionizing the self.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Raven, thanks for coming by – you are going to be in for a real treat this month. Some of the voices you may recognize, some will be new, but each one will offer you a fresh new perspective on the topic of ‘change’.

      Change is something we talk about to death, but I can already tell you that you’ll read some very unique thoughts – as the panel of bloggers I’m featuring each tackled the topic from a different angle. Glad you will be out there reading and getting involved in discussion!

  • http://www.thewriterbabeseries.com Raven

    Wow. Loads of responses here. I’ll admit that I am curious to see what these bloggers will talk about. Some I’m familiar with, some not. It will be great to see a whole new ideas and approaches to of (r)evolutionizing the self.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Raven, thanks for coming by – you are going to be in for a real treat this month. Some of the voices you may recognize, some will be new, but each one will offer you a fresh new perspective on the topic of ‘change’.

      Change is something we talk about to death, but I can already tell you that you’ll read some very unique thoughts – as the panel of bloggers I’m featuring each tackled the topic from a different angle. Glad you will be out there reading and getting involved in discussion!

  • http://sydneyowen.com/ Sydney

    Matt,

    I actually posted a post called “Create the change you seek” about a higher ed initiative that I’m starting to get education about social media into college classrooms. Feel free to add it to your series if you’d like, the more people that know about it, the better!

    I love this idea, and I can’t wait to see it take off!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Sydney – if you’d like to be a part of the series and contribute, we can chat about some options for getting you into the mix, so just let me know (shoot me an email). Either way, I’m glad to have you as part of the community here!

  • http://sydneyowen.com Sydney

    Matt,

    I actually posted a post called “Create the change you seek” about a higher ed initiative that I’m starting to get education about social media into college classrooms. Feel free to add it to your series if you’d like, the more people that know about it, the better!

    I love this idea, and I can’t wait to see it take off!

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Sydney – if you’d like to be a part of the series and contribute, we can chat about some options for getting you into the mix, so just let me know (shoot me an email). Either way, I’m glad to have you as part of the community here!

  • http://twitter.com/mehta1p Pritesh

    Matt:

    I must tell you that you have started a great series over here. I would love to see views of other bloggers on change and how they enact change in real lives.

    From definitions of change on the Web, ‘change’ is an event that occurs when something passes from one state or phase to another. Now how can we passes from one phase to another? You said that we need to change ourselves and that change comes from within. I completely agree with you and I think everyone knows it very well. BUT why is it hard to do and follow? Why can’t we change ourselves first to see how it affects to the world?

    Few thoughts came to my mind after I read your post. Thru Kiva.org, just like everyone I have donated to entrepreneurs in the developing world. April was a record breaking month at Kiva with over $4.4 million loaned. Above all, it was a third record-breaking month in a row! It’s a good sign that people would like to give back and help others even in the time of recession. But have I actually helped my neighbor or my local community in April? My answer is NO. And that’s where everyone, including me, stops. We like to read, debate and think a lot about change as it’s easy to impress everyone at the cocktail party but the main question is, are we really becoming a ‘change’? Are we really helping someone with our strength? It’s not like we do not have time or we do not have any resources available. If I have time to read this post and other comments and have time to reply you back, I definitely have a time to help a local community and help others. We just have to find out what stops us from doing that and how can we overcome it.

    In recent times, volunteers have been increasing throughout the country. In New York, there are more volunteers than actual work and various non-profit organizations are saying NO to the people who would like to help as they might have lost their jobs. Real scenario would be seen when we would bounce back to where we were few years ago. Would we still be helping non-profit organizations without getting paid? We might, but not at the level where it is right now. All we need to do is to change ourselves or change our community where we live and spread the message. We would need to do this no matter what our life situation becomes. It cannot be done over night or in few days. Patience is the key here and the change should be sustainable. It should last forever, if not longer. We cannot help everyone or change everything in a day. We need to start from small things per day and then go further and make it sustain.

    The best changes often start as a single, simple thought. We have to think big, and discover the ways to make it real. We have to find out various ways to make our thoughts into reality and actually implement them in real life. Others would notice, if not today then tomorrow, and by the time we realize, we would become a very important part of a very big movement.

    Cheers,
    Pritesh
    http://twitter.com/mehta1p

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Pritesh – thanks so much for this comment. I’m in the same boat as you – I don’t give to my own community nearly as much as I should – and clearly, the world would be a better place if more people reached out and were more willing to lend a helping hand. In short it is inconvenient, taking the time to go clean up a park on a Saturday morning takes away from other ‘fun’ things you could be doing.

      I think it all comes down to INTENT – you have to WANT to change, and you have to be able to connect the intent with objective results (read Eva’s post on the Psychology of Change for more on this). On this same note, we have to see a favorable outcome in the future, whatever it may be.

      The point of this series is not to tell people to go out and volunteer more, but rather, what I hope people will take away from this is to look within themselves, think about their own doubts and hesitations, and start changing from within. I don’t expect anyone to be inspired to donate their life savings to a local charity – but I do HOPE that The Inconvenience of Change series presents a very ‘real’ look at change, why it’s difficult, but also why it’s necessary, and how to realistically take it on and be a proponent of change in your own life.

      Thanks again Pritesh – so glad to have you as part of the community.

  • http://twitter.com/mehta1p Pritesh

    Matt:

    I must tell you that you have started a great series over here. I would love to see views of other bloggers on change and how they enact change in real lives.

    From definitions of change on the Web, ‘change’ is an event that occurs when something passes from one state or phase to another. Now how can we passes from one phase to another? You said that we need to change ourselves and that change comes from within. I completely agree with you and I think everyone knows it very well. BUT why is it hard to do and follow? Why can’t we change ourselves first to see how it affects to the world?

    Few thoughts came to my mind after I read your post. Thru Kiva.org, just like everyone I have donated to entrepreneurs in the developing world. April was a record breaking month at Kiva with over $4.4 million loaned. Above all, it was a third record-breaking month in a row! It’s a good sign that people would like to give back and help others even in the time of recession. But have I actually helped my neighbor or my local community in April? My answer is NO. And that’s where everyone, including me, stops. We like to read, debate and think a lot about change as it’s easy to impress everyone at the cocktail party but the main question is, are we really becoming a ‘change’? Are we really helping someone with our strength? It’s not like we do not have time or we do not have any resources available. If I have time to read this post and other comments and have time to reply you back, I definitely have a time to help a local community and help others. We just have to find out what stops us from doing that and how can we overcome it.

    In recent times, volunteers have been increasing throughout the country. In New York, there are more volunteers than actual work and various non-profit organizations are saying NO to the people who would like to help as they might have lost their jobs. Real scenario would be seen when we would bounce back to where we were few years ago. Would we still be helping non-profit organizations without getting paid? We might, but not at the level where it is right now. All we need to do is to change ourselves or change our community where we live and spread the message. We would need to do this no matter what our life situation becomes. It cannot be done over night or in few days. Patience is the key here and the change should be sustainable. It should last forever, if not longer. We cannot help everyone or change everything in a day. We need to start from small things per day and then go further and make it sustain.

    The best changes often start as a single, simple thought. We have to think big, and discover the ways to make it real. We have to find out various ways to make our thoughts into reality and actually implement them in real life. Others would notice, if not today then tomorrow, and by the time we realize, we would become a very important part of a very big movement.

    Cheers,
    Pritesh
    http://twitter.com/mehta1p

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Pritesh – thanks so much for this comment. I’m in the same boat as you – I don’t give to my own community nearly as much as I should – and clearly, the world would be a better place if more people reached out and were more willing to lend a helping hand. In short it is inconvenient, taking the time to go clean up a park on a Saturday morning takes away from other ‘fun’ things you could be doing.

      I think it all comes down to INTENT – you have to WANT to change, and you have to be able to connect the intent with objective results (read Eva’s post on the Psychology of Change for more on this). On this same note, we have to see a favorable outcome in the future, whatever it may be.

      The point of this series is not to tell people to go out and volunteer more, but rather, what I hope people will take away from this is to look within themselves, think about their own doubts and hesitations, and start changing from within. I don’t expect anyone to be inspired to donate their life savings to a local charity – but I do HOPE that The Inconvenience of Change series presents a very ‘real’ look at change, why it’s difficult, but also why it’s necessary, and how to realistically take it on and be a proponent of change in your own life.

      Thanks again Pritesh – so glad to have you as part of the community.

  • http://howtomakeadifferencenow.blogspot.com/ Meg

    A great post. I’m looking forward to seeing what the great bloggers you have enlisted to contribute to the series have to say!

    In my experience, the frightening thing about ‘being the change’ is that you have to put yourself out there. You make yourself a target for people who disagree, or who are themselves scared of change. You become a ‘public’ figure and open to criticism. And your passion, your ideals, your dreams even, are suddenly in the public domain. Its a pretty scary thought.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com/ Matt

      Agreed Meg – there is a high level of vulnerability that comes with change. It takes guts, you have to be a strong person to be a proponent of change – it takes will and determination, without a doubt. But i am a firm believer, no matter what level of confidence you believe you possess, regardless of the current situation you are in, each of us have it within ourselves to bring about change, raise awareness, improve our quality of life, and inspire others.

      Look at me – I’m just your average guy, nothing out of the ordinary in the grand scheme of things, but look at the community I’ve been able to create around this topic. I’m not here to toot my own horn, but it illustrates that anyone can make strides toward changing themselves and changing the world around them!

      Meg, check out the NEW DAY REVOLUTION page up above – I encourage you to get involved with this series, post an article on your own blog, and we’ll send you a free book! As if you needed incentive to inspire others :)

  • http://howtomakeadifferencenow.blogspot.com Meg

    A great post. I’m looking forward to seeing what the great bloggers you have enlisted to contribute to the series have to say!

    In my experience, the frightening thing about ‘being the change’ is that you have to put yourself out there. You make yourself a target for people who disagree, or who are themselves scared of change. You become a ‘public’ figure and open to criticism. And your passion, your ideals, your dreams even, are suddenly in the public domain. Its a pretty scary thought.

    • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt

      Agreed Meg – there is a high level of vulnerability that comes with change. It takes guts, you have to be a strong person to be a proponent of change – it takes will and determination, without a doubt. But i am a firm believer, no matter what level of confidence you believe you possess, regardless of the current situation you are in, each of us have it within ourselves to bring about change, raise awareness, improve our quality of life, and inspire others.

      Look at me – I’m just your average guy, nothing out of the ordinary in the grand scheme of things, but look at the community I’ve been able to create around this topic. I’m not here to toot my own horn, but it illustrates that anyone can make strides toward changing themselves and changing the world around them!

      Meg, check out the NEW DAY REVOLUTION page up above – I encourage you to get involved with this series, post an article on your own blog, and we’ll send you a free book! As if you needed incentive to inspire others :)

  • john_adam87

    when are we going to speak for this people?

    “By Kristine Kostuck
    Contributing Writer

    The serenity, the relief of a village community that hadn’t been touched by their country’s civil warfare in 1977. There would be enough food to get through the rainy season with this harvest. But the village was burning, the sound of gunshots and screams filled the air.

    It was like any other day for the people of Ethiopia. The civil war was winding down but a new generation of genocide was about to begin. It would last for years and continue until the people it affected saw no hope for peace.

    The attack on the village left 165 dead. Some survivors fled while others waited, hoping for something to save them. If any were lucky enough to pull through the gunshot wounds and burns, they would lead a life of silence and chance. If victims spoke of their struggles they would put their families in danger for generations to come.

    One of the survivors of that day in 1977 chooses to remain anonymous for this very reason, even though he is currently living in Fargo. Shot five times in the head, once in the arm and multiple times in the legs, he spends most of his time on his living room floor. He is paralyzed from the waist down and only has one useable arm. He is cared for by his wife, another Ethiopian immigrant.

    He doesn’t remember much from that day. He was only 14 years old. The atrocity left marks on him that will always affect him physically and emotionally. He does remember the day his village was set afire. The flashbacks always start in the same. He is looking out of a window, his eyes filling with tears because he is watching his father’s green farmland burn. Eventually he can’t cry anymore and is forced to run for his life.

    After the first shot to the head, he was comatose. “They left me as a dead man—it was like I was already dead,” he said. He is still unsure of how long he laid face down in the dirt before the American Red Cross found him. They rescued him and a few others that day, taking them to a refugee camp in Somalia. There, they removed each bullet from his head. He says he couldn’t talk for three weeks.

    His recovery took weeks but later he was moved to America with his wife.

    She was also rescued by the Red Cross and has endured just as much pain as her husband. She will spend the rest of her life wondering what happened to her five children. She had to leave them behind because she lost track of them during the chaos of a weekly attack.“I don’t know if they are dead, imprisoned or still on the run,” she said, “But I know that most of the time I can barely speak of some of the things I saw in my homeland.” For the sake of keeping them alive, if they are alive, she wishes to remain anonymous as well.

    The couple both came from upper class families in Ogaden, Ethiopia, and are dedicated to their religion. Within the years of the civil war, most of their family were shot or imprisoned. Why this happened to them or is happening to other civilians is unknown by many. Some of the Ethiopian people don’t even understand why there is so much violence or why they are being targeted. Perhaps because the genocide has gone on so long.

    The two describe the regime as inhuman, because they are not targeting a specific group, class or religion but almost any Ethiopian civilian. The regime is a tribe called the Tigra, that works closely with the country’s government.

    When the war was supposed to be over, the killing continued, and after a few years people started to fight back. The regime invented more ways to kill people, this time with torture. Even the most peaceful protesters weren’t safe when the government killed over a hundred students outside of a peace rally. After enough bodies piled up, the people just stopped trying to reason with the government.

    The Fargo couple have been very fortunate to escape. America was the secure home they desperately needed, but was not the end of their struggle. Neither speaks a word of English and they can’t work. They are surviving with the help of disability services, but hope to have more someday. Their first step is learning our language, something they are working on.

    They are very grateful for everything our country has done for them. But they are troubled when they pay taxes because they know it could go to the Ethiopian government. As America is an ally, it is no secret we have given them money. The two are not resentful of this, but instead wish for a way the world could see their country’s story through their eyes.

    “The worst thing I think could happen to them, has,” said Arabi Rabi, a Minnesota State University student. He is from the same place as the couple and is a spokesperson for the “Silent Cry” documentary promotion. “The Red Cross, any media and the other human rights groups are banned from the country,” he said.

    “Silent Cry” is a film that a group of four British students made after visiting Nairobi Kenya, over a spring break trip. They first heard about Ethiopia’s horrific story when they met a taxi driver. He told them about a refugee camp, called the IFO Refugee Camp, in the northern part of Kenya, a destination for the genocide victims. The students knew they had to visit it. If everything the driver said was true, they were going to capture it on film. This led to the documentary “Silent Cry.”

    The documentary broke their silence and became the voice for the Ethiopian people when it was given global distribution. The mission is to raise awareness about the genocide. “We can’t make a mark until everyone knows that its going on,” said Rabi. “I just hope one day we have enough people standing behind us to make a change.”

    Rabi became part of the awareness project after he noticed nobody in the United States knew about his country’s oppression. He searched for something that could educate people about it and stumbled onto the “Silent Cry” film in Minneapolis. “I watched it twice, I cried both times. It was terrifying to think that the same things I had nightmares about as a kid, when I lived in Kenya, are still going on,” he said.

    Rabi left Africa when he was very young, and has lived in the States most of his life. When he left Africa, he and his family hoped they would never have to be exposed to that kind of danger again or see anyone suffering in that way. “I’ve seen people being killed weekly. Then they put dead bodies on public display,” he said.

    Both Rabi and the couple from the village say they saw things that were too hard to put into words, things that will forever haunt them. In “Silent Cry,” the women talk about being raped by multiple men in the span of hours, forced to watch their children buried alive and being forced to kill their children. Killing people almost seems like a game to the regime, they get creative when they torture their victims. But the militia didn’t like to waste bullets, said Rabi. Many victims had enough of their bones broken so they couldn’t move and were left to starve. Others were hung with barbed wire.

    Rabi decided to bring the documentary to Fargo to educate as many here as possible. “All these people are asking for is to not be harmed, stop hurting us, our families, stop the rapes and violence. If these people were just given their human rights this would go away,” he said.

    “Silent Cry” will be shown at MSCTC in Moorhead, on March 25 at 2:30 p.m., in the MSCTC Auditorium. From the parking lot, enter the South 1 door—that’s the door by the flagpole. After the film a brief discussion will follow, with Rabi’s own reflections on the genocide. “

  • john_adam87

    matt: i like your idea and how we should make change especial when it come to awareness, will this is one of the hiding genocide that i never hard or news talking about it but is the answer the reason is because everything is being block, red cross, news, and etc any way when i watch the documentary called silent cry it change me yet all i could do is spread the word. the document when i watch it was moment that change my life to do whatever i can for this people yet the sad side is that we support the regime that is doing this. we never ask what they do with the money but they payed weapon and use it to kill people. will if their is anything that anybody could help contact me pls

  • jamal

    ADDIS ABABA (Reuters) – U.N. humanitarian chief John Holmes said on Wednesday there was international anxiety at a possible humanitarian crisis and accusations of rights abuses in Ethiopia's Ogaden region.

    Holmes went to the remote eastern region on Tuesday, the most high profile visit since Ogaden National Liberation Front (ONLF) rebels killed 74 people in an attack on an oil exploration field in April, provoking a government offensive.

    Both sides say they have killed hundreds of the others' fighters since then, and aid agencies say people in the region are suffering severe food and medical needs.

    “There is the possibility of a very serious humanitarian crisis in the region as a consequence of the security situation,” Holmes said in carefully chosen words on a highly sensitive subject for Prime Minister Meles Zenawi's government.

    “What I was trying to do was symbolise by my visit the extent of international concern about the situation there and the depths of our concern to avert a serious humanitarian crisis there in the future.”

    The Ogaden crisis has been largely overshadowed by other hot-spots in the region, including neighbouring Somalia and Sudan's Darfur region.

    Holmes reiterated calls for investigations into accusations of rights abuses. The ONLF says troops have been terrorising the people, while the government says it is the rebels, whom it calls terrorists backed by arch-enemy Eritrea, who are guilty.

    “They are clearly serious allegations and they are coming from not just one source,” Holmes told a news conference.

    “They need to be looked at carefully, they need to be taken seriously and, if possible, they need to be investigated openly and independently.”

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