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The Fear of Life

“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” - Mark Twain

As we lay my grandfather to rest today, I can’t help but think about death. The first emotion that comes to mind is fear. But I realized yesterday, as I gathered amongst family at my grandpa’s wake – it’s not that I (and we) are afraid of dying. We’re afraid of not truly having lived a full life.

My grandpa, a marine, a husband, a father to four, a grandfather to five, and a friend to many, lived a full life. He passed away Saturday, suddenly, peacefully, and I believe with the comfort in his mind of a man who accomplished great things. Not fearful of death because of his confidence in knowing he lived a full life.

May we all be so fortunate. May we all be reminded today and everyday that our lives our precious – and that the fear we have about dying can only be subdued through living. May my grandfather rest in peace today and everyday knowing the profound impact he had on the lives of myself and many.

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  1. It’s hard hearing older people talk about regrets. Makes us think about our lives now. Plus, we don’t know when we’ll die. We might not even get old, so it makes your points here even more relevant. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Matt, thanks for sharing even during your time of loss. You always offer a refreshing, realistic and genuine narrative that peole can appreciate. Thanks for speaking/writing truth and showing us how to make a living out of it too! Be blessed Matt.

  3. Very sorry about your loss, Matt. One of my biggest fears has always been death, but you bring about some great points to reconsider. I think I do fear it because up until now I haven’t been living my life as fully as I could be. Tragedies are tough but sure do offer us important lessons. *hugs*

  4. I’m sorry to hear about your loss. And your post really got me thinking. It’s true, we all live in this fear of not living a full life. We all know death is a part of life, but I think people are afraid they didn’t take the risk, took a leap of faith, and regret they stayed stagnant. My goal is to not have any regrets, and this reaffirms that. Thank you for writing this even while you’re going through a difficult time.

  5. Matt,

    I’m sorry for your loss. It is obvious how much you love and respect your grandfather. Men like him never die, as they leave behind those who always love and remember them.


  6. Part of the fear is not living long enough. What would you say if you were to die tomorrow, at your age?

    I’m not as much afraid of death itself, as of dying before I experience all the things.

    • In one of the verses in the bible which says” For me to live is Christ and to die is gain”, depicts fully about our rewards when we’ll pass through this world. We have nothing to worry about when we made our life complete in the desires of our creator….our God..”Live meaningfully according to His image”