One Hundred Ten Percent (On Obligating Yourself to Your Dreams)

“When you decide to go after a new dream, you need to give less to your current reality and more to your desired reality. I see this struggle especially with people who want to leave a situation to start their own thing: You set your sights on your dream, and yet, you keep giving your current, kinda-crappy situation 110% — out of habit, obligation, fear or image control. You keep putting in crazy hours at your current thing, while the New Thing just… waits for you to find the time… getting the scraps of your energy and attention.”- Danielle Laporte

Sound like you? It sure sounds like me. I’ve been here – and in some ways I’m there right now. I identify myself as a “Type-A Overachiever” or as Gretchen Rubin puts it, an “Upholder”. A go-getter type who’s 110% all-in to whatever may be in front of me at the moment.

But then something new comes along. A new idea (I have an insane amount of those). A new project or thought or topic to write about or focus. And then I feel torn – torn between the current normal and the new normal.

So inevitably being the go-getter that I am, I try to put 100% into both. But we all know that flat-out isn’t possible. Something starts to slack and becomes weaker, and then, being the kind of person that I am, I get stressed, frustrated, overwhelmed  and retreat back to whatever was – instead of what could be.

But Danielle, as she often does, hits the nail on the head. Because, as she says, to be successful at whatever that new thing/idea/intention may be, you have to “take your energy out of what you don’t want to be doing anymore so you can put it in what you really want to be doing.”

It sounds so damn simple, but it can be incredibly crippling to actually execute. Because it involves taking a critical look at where you are and where you want to be – and it takes an understanding that, in order to get from HERE to THERE, you’re going to have to make some tough decisions and you’re likely going to disappoint some folks along the way.

But if you’re that concerned with letting OTHERS down, where would YOU be? Would you ever leave your nine to five? Would you ever stop blogging to focus on writing a book? Would you ever end a friendship to make time for the people in your life that really matter?

Dreams. We all have them. But we call them dreams not because they’re unattainable, but because we’re not willing to attain them. We’re not willing to give up something to get something else. We hold back from taking action.

And until you do – until you take your energy out of what you don’t want to be doing so you can put it in what you really want to be doing – what you should be doing, dreams will stay dreams and your reality will remain.

Today I task you with thinking about a dream you have - just one goal. For me, I’ve got a passion project (which I’ll be sharing the details of in the not-too-distant future, but, foreshadowing, it involves craft beer – surprise, surprise) that I’ve put off because I haven’t made time for it.

Whatever it is for you, if it’s simply a lack of time that’s holding you back, join with me today in MAKING time. Quit something. Spend less time on one thing that isn’t a priority to make time for that one thing that is.

“Obligate yourself to your dream” and make it a reality.

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Redefine Normal. Act Accordingly. Be Remarkable.

This article was originally written from 30,000 ft. in my notebook. Analog, baby!

World Domination Summit 2013 is in the books. Here I am on a plane, sitting, thinking, and reflecting. Reflecting on an absolute blur of a weekend. One full of inspiration, curiosity, laughs, tears, affirmation, and fulfillment. World Domination Summit has many definitions, but at its foundation it is simply a gathering of remarkable people doing remarkable things.

It’s easy to feel pretty unremarkable. It’s easy to give in to the conventional. Tess Vigeland, described during her presentation (which was absolutely one of the highlights of the weekend for me) the roller-coaster she experiences day to day – one that universally resonated with the nearly 3,000 hustlers and dreamers sitting in Arlene Schnitzer Concert Hall, including yours truly…

One day, you feel unstoppable. Like a total badass. Like you can do absolutely anything and nothing, nothing, will stand in your way. And yet the next day you convince yourself you’re a total fuck-up. That you’ve been kidding yourself all along. That you should pack it in and pack it up and just give up.


Is the Fear of Finishing Keeping You From Starting?

Start.

The first step to making a million bucks? Start doing exceptional work today that’ll lead to more work tomorrow.

The first step to running a marathon? Lace up your shoes and head out the door for a run this morning.

The first step to discovering what you should be doing? Try.

The first step to discovering what you shouldn’t be doing? Try.

We’re constantly held back from getting started because we’re afraid of how we’ll finish (or if we’ll finish at all). We let the end goal hold us back from crossing the starting line.


Pausing for “Why”, Discovering Purpose, and Dwelling in Possibility.

Dwell in possibility

I’ve been stuck lately. Not a bad stuck, but stuck nonetheless.

I’ve been stuck on one simple yet incredibly impossible question…

Why?

Why do I do what I do? What do I love about my work? What matters most? And how does my love and passion translate into the work I do? As Simon Sinek so aptly states, “People do not buy what you do – but why you do it.”

Mike Maddock of Forbes writes:

“Starting a career, a company or any kind of journey that is based firmly on your purpose is foundational to success and happiness. If you don’t know your company’s purpose or even your own, finding one is the worthiest of resolutions.”

Passion is contagious. Passion sells. Think about the stores you frequently shop at – or the coffee shop you’re a regular of – or the restaurant you eat at three times a week. Think about the leaders you respect and the people you admire. What’s the common thread? What rests at their foundation? It’s that their “why” is obvious. Their commitment to the craft – to customer service – to making great shit and doing wonderful things – that’s what matters and that’s what we, as consumers, fans, and followers, resonate with.


Talk to Someone. Anyone.

Talk to someone

I get in my own way. It’s one of the challenges of running your own business. Talking yourself into brilliant ideas, then convincing yourself that they’re stupid and couldn’t possibly work.

The cure? Talk to someone. Even if the idea seems totally crazy. Even if you end up rambling on incoherently over a beer (or several) – simply articulating your ideas, the ones you’ve buried inside your own thoughts and chalked up to “crazy” – is incredibly important in turning ideas into actions.