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I Have Shit to Say

Last week I spent 90 minutes on Skype with Ashley Ambirge – better known to most of you as the mastermind and ass-kicker behind The Middle Finger Project (which is truly one of the most amazingly mind-blowingly awesome blogs you’ll find out there…seriously). Amidst talking about our basement dwelling, foreign smuggling, philosophizing endeavors, we came to a common consensus on “why we do what we do” – and more importantly, what got us started as bloggers…

Long story short…We had “shit to say”.

That, in my opinion, is the best reason anyone can give for why they’re doing this – for why one day they decided to stop writing in a diary and start writing where everyone can see. We do this because we have shit to say, because we want to put our voice out there for other people to hear. We want other people to listen – we want other people to agree and disagree with us – we want to meet new people, network, and communicate – and above all, we want to learn.

And at the end of the day, we just have shit to say. It all starts with your voice, your ideas, before you ever start to worry about what everyone else thinks.

I’m seeing a very common consensus amongst friends in the blogging game – their blogs have absolutely, without a doubt, changed their lives. If you let it, if you aren’t afraid to say “shit” – even if sometimes it sounds ridiculous, or no one understands it, or no one reads it but you (and your mom) – a blog can be a game changer – it can be your gateway to opportunities you didn’t even know existed – it can lead you to new career opportunities, it can push you to start your own business, and it can be the best damn therapy out there. Through everything I have gone through, through every up and down that’s happened to me over the past year and a half – I’ve been able to count on three things, My family, my fiance, and my friends here – the supportive community that continues to evolve. My blog.

And it all started with a simple idea. It all goes back to Ms. Ambirge’s point – “I had shit to say”. One day I stopped worrying about what other people would think, I stopped worrying about whether or not I was a good writer, I didn’t focus on planning and numbers and metrics. I focused on the writing, and I focused on sharing that writing with as many people who would listen.

Here I am today, a little more than a year after setting out on this maiden voyage, and I can’t even begin to retrospect how much my life has changed BECAUSE of my blog.

Don’t worry about being the best, don’t even worry about being “good” (whatever that means). If you have shit to say, start saying it – and don’t let anyone hold you back.

And if you start to lose track of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Remember what went through your head on day one…

“I have shit to say”.

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  1. Matt,
    That’s very encouraging! Thank you very much, i will always remember that.

    Blogging is truly a life changing experience. You get to know things that you never knew existed within you. A wonderful experience it continues to be.

    • I couldn’t agree more Christopher. It’s easy to forget why we started doing what we do – we get caught up in the numbers game, or the competitive side of things – we become too narrowly focused and somewhere along the way, lose track of our passion for writing. Sometimes we need reminders like this to get us back on track. Thanks for the comment my friend.

  2. Matt,
    That’s very encouraging! Thank you very much, i will always remember that.

    Blogging is truly a life changing experience. You get to know things that you never knew existed within you. A wonderful experience it continues to be.

    • I couldn’t agree more Christopher. It’s easy to forget why we started doing what we do – we get caught up in the numbers game, or the competitive side of things – we become too narrowly focused and somewhere along the way, lose track of our passion for writing. Sometimes we need reminders like this to get us back on track. Thanks for the comment my friend.

  3. I met my husband directly on my blog, so I guess you can say blogging changed my life as well. I enjoy following you on Twitter. Thanks for posting your blog links in your feed.

    • Wow, now there’s a good “how’d you meet your spouse” story. That’s awesome! I think it’s safe to say blogging has changed many, many lives. Thanks for following and stopping by Erica.

  4. I met my husband directly on my blog, so I guess you can say blogging changed my life as well. I enjoy following you on Twitter. Thanks for posting your blog links in your feed.

    • Wow, now there’s a good “how’d you meet your spouse” story. That’s awesome! I think it’s safe to say blogging has changed many, many lives. Thanks for following and stopping by Erica.

  5. I like it! I honestly can’t imagine life withour my blog now … it has really made a difference to me on so many levels….to my creativity, discipline & networking skills to name a few.

    • It’s honed so many skills I never new existed within me – and has connected me to a countless number of truly innovative and creative people (such as yourself) from literally all over the world. A friend and I were talking the other day and we were saying that we could travel almost anywhere and have a friend there. That’s pretty amazing to think about.

  6. I like it! I honestly can’t imagine life withour my blog now … it has really made a difference to me on so many levels….to my creativity, discipline & networking skills to name a few.

    • It’s honed so many skills I never new existed within me – and has connected me to a countless number of truly innovative and creative people (such as yourself) from literally all over the world. A friend and I were talking the other day and we were saying that we could travel almost anywhere and have a friend there. That’s pretty amazing to think about.

  7. First, can I just say how happy I am that a blog post summing up a conversation with me is decorated with an image of a rabid, man-eating bear? I can’t decide if this was an excellent choice, or one that I’d prefer not to reflect upon. ;)

    Second, our Skype call was golden. What I really love about you, Matt, is that you possess a certain energy about you that inevitably just gets passed onto whoever you’re engaging with. You have this way of passing on this spine-tingling feel-good attitude, and it was a sincere pleasure to have the opportunity to chat.

    Third, I think unless you’re unconscious, you’ve got shit to say. Everyone’s got something to say. Everyone’s got a little something that’s burning in them. Granted, some of those people are serial killers and we probably don’t want to hear what’s going on in *their* head, but that’s the exception. (Note to any serial killers out there: I’m like a little ninja with a knife. Don’t even think about it.)

    Technology has so changed the world…but just imagine what would happen if people really started to leverage it?

    Blog it up, people. It’s a good time. And and and and AND…you get featured on other super duper blogs and then owe that blogger, like, your life. Which is way better than giving it to a serial killer.

    Can anyone tell I haven’t had any coffee yet?

    Peace, Matt Chev.

    With love,

    “Anonymity” (I still can’t pronounce it.)

    • “Third, I think unless you’re unconscious, you’ve got shit to say. Everyone’s got something to say. Everyone’s got a little something that’s burning in them.”

      I. Love. This.

    • Sooo right. Everyone’s got something to say. And these days it’s easier to get out and carry on conversations around your ideas, dreams, rants…

      My favorite part about the big wide intrawebs? Finding your “people”. Hearing your passions pour from anothers post. Recognizing a soul sista’ (or brotha’!). And being able to connect with said peeps.

      Delicious!

    • @Ash – I told you as soon as you threw out this quote at me that 1) I’d write it on my white board 2) when I write something on my white board I never forget it and 3) I’d turn it into a blog post. And here you have it. This one was too good to pass up.

      The Skype call really was golden – and I feel that from this point forward, almost every single one needs to be recorded from beginning to end – the amount of positive energy is too contagious not to share with the world.

      I agree with your point that if you’re living, you have something to say (even the serial killers). It’s just about letting yourself go and doing it. I talk to a lot of folks who worry that they don’t have anything to say, or that no one will care about what they’re saying. In short, if anyone cares about what I’m saying here, they’ll care about what you’re saying – because I sure as hell am not anything special (at least not any more special than you or anyone else who wants their voice to be heard).

      LOL – the 10 minutes spent attempting “Anonymity” were priceless – or the “signal” for when your face was looking all pixelated and psychotic. Man, good times.

      OK, OK, this is turning into an inside-joke fest, which just pissed everyone else off. Ehem…

      YES! Blog it up people! You’ll be glad you did!

  8. First, can I just say how happy I am that a blog post summing up a conversation with me is decorated with an image of a rabid, man-eating bear? I can’t decide if this was an excellent choice, or one that I’d prefer not to reflect upon. ;)

    Second, our Skype call was golden. What I really love about you, Matt, is that you possess a certain energy about you that inevitably just gets passed onto whoever you’re engaging with. You have this way of passing on this spine-tingling feel-good attitude, and it was a sincere pleasure to have the opportunity to chat.

    Third, I think unless you’re unconscious, you’ve got shit to say. Everyone’s got something to say. Everyone’s got a little something that’s burning in them. Granted, some of those people are serial killers and we probably don’t want to hear what’s going on in *their* head, but that’s the exception. (Note to any serial killers out there: I’m like a little ninja with a knife. Don’t even think about it.)

    Technology has so changed the world…but just imagine what would happen if people really started to leverage it?

    Blog it up, people. It’s a good time. And and and and AND…you get featured on other super duper blogs and then owe that blogger, like, your life. Which is way better than giving it to a serial killer.

    Can anyone tell I haven’t had any coffee yet?

    Peace, Matt Chev.

    With love,

    “Anonymity” (I still can’t pronounce it.)

    • “Third, I think unless you’re unconscious, you’ve got shit to say. Everyone’s got something to say. Everyone’s got a little something that’s burning in them.”

      I. Love. This.

    • Sooo right. Everyone’s got something to say. And these days it’s easier to get out and carry on conversations around your ideas, dreams, rants…

      My favorite part about the big wide intrawebs? Finding your “people”. Hearing your passions pour from anothers post. Recognizing a soul sista’ (or brotha’!). And being able to connect with said peeps.

      Delicious!

    • @Ash – I told you as soon as you threw out this quote at me that 1) I’d write it on my white board 2) when I write something on my white board I never forget it and 3) I’d turn it into a blog post. And here you have it. This one was too good to pass up.

      The Skype call really was golden – and I feel that from this point forward, almost every single one needs to be recorded from beginning to end – the amount of positive energy is too contagious not to share with the world.

      I agree with your point that if you’re living, you have something to say (even the serial killers). It’s just about letting yourself go and doing it. I talk to a lot of folks who worry that they don’t have anything to say, or that no one will care about what they’re saying. In short, if anyone cares about what I’m saying here, they’ll care about what you’re saying – because I sure as hell am not anything special (at least not any more special than you or anyone else who wants their voice to be heard).

      LOL – the 10 minutes spent attempting “Anonymity” were priceless – or the “signal” for when your face was looking all pixelated and psychotic. Man, good times.

      OK, OK, this is turning into an inside-joke fest, which just pissed everyone else off. Ehem…

      YES! Blog it up people! You’ll be glad you did!

  9. I was scared to see what picture was going to load at first…

    I like this blog. A lot. It’s so true. Our voices come out in our blogs. Sometimes humorous, sometimes informative, sometimes ranting. It’s the voices in our head escaping. We put our feelings and emotions into words and whatever will be will be. Like it or not, this is my blog. This is what you get.

    I sometimes wonder if I come across too sarcastic (noo) or too rude, because I have a tendency to say it like it is. Guess what? I’m not going to worry about it anymore (today). I’m going to write. I have to quiet the voices. The little shits! It has changed my life. Therapy, well, I still need that! :)

    • Hear! Hear! Thanks for the accolades my friend. It’s when you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, when you stop censoring yourself, and start speaking your mind when you really tap into the power of what blogging is all about. Figuring out a way to relate to your audience and community is important, but first and foremost, you need to be doing it for yourself.

  10. I was scared to see what picture was going to load at first…

    I like this blog. A lot. It’s so true. Our voices come out in our blogs. Sometimes humorous, sometimes informative, sometimes ranting. It’s the voices in our head escaping. We put our feelings and emotions into words and whatever will be will be. Like it or not, this is my blog. This is what you get.

    I sometimes wonder if I come across too sarcastic (noo) or too rude, because I have a tendency to say it like it is. Guess what? I’m not going to worry about it anymore (today). I’m going to write. I have to quiet the voices. The little shits! It has changed my life. Therapy, well, I still need that! :)

    • Hear! Hear! Thanks for the accolades my friend. It’s when you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, when you stop censoring yourself, and start speaking your mind when you really tap into the power of what blogging is all about. Figuring out a way to relate to your audience and community is important, but first and foremost, you need to be doing it for yourself.

  11. The sad part is that most bloggers don’t say the shit they have to say. Instead, they regurgitate the shit other bloggers have to say and blogs become annoying echoes of each other.

    I wish more bloggers (like yourself) would step up and create new ideas, say new things, and not be afraid to step outside the regular social media crap.

    People actually have shit to say? Great. I wish they’d say it more.

    • Agreed (to an extent) – I think most of what’s out there has been said before in some regard, but do agree that a lot of what you see is pretty repetitive. I don’t always claim to be truly innovative in subject matter, but I do hope that my perspective always (or at least usually) adds something unique and provides a new takeaway for readers.

      One way to do this is to experiment – with new topics, with new mediums. Don’t be afraid to try new things and present ideas in new ways, that’s what innovation is all about.

  12. The sad part is that most bloggers don’t say the shit they have to say. Instead, they regurgitate the shit other bloggers have to say and blogs become annoying echoes of each other.

    I wish more bloggers (like yourself) would step up and create new ideas, say new things, and not be afraid to step outside the regular social media crap.

    People actually have shit to say? Great. I wish they’d say it more.

    • Agreed (to an extent) – I think most of what’s out there has been said before in some regard, but do agree that a lot of what you see is pretty repetitive. I don’t always claim to be truly innovative in subject matter, but I do hope that my perspective always (or at least usually) adds something unique and provides a new takeaway for readers.

      One way to do this is to experiment – with new topics, with new mediums. Don’t be afraid to try new things and present ideas in new ways, that’s what innovation is all about.

  13. Matt,

    You need to clarify… you blog doesn’t have “shit” to say. It’s much better than that!! :) Thanks for another great blog jolt. I just forwarded this to a friend who was worried their blog wasn’t making an impact.
    Be well pal!
    Jason

    • Thanks Jason – This was not only sparked by Ash’s and I’s conversation last week -but also, as you pointed out – several conversations with other bloggers who think what they have to say “isn’t good enough”. In short – it most certainly is – and as long as you love writing it, the rest will fall into place. Cheers buddy!

  14. Matt,

    You need to clarify… you blog doesn’t have “shit” to say. It’s much better than that!! :) Thanks for another great blog jolt. I just forwarded this to a friend who was worried their blog wasn’t making an impact.
    Be well pal!
    Jason

    • Thanks Jason – This was not only sparked by Ash’s and I’s conversation last week -but also, as you pointed out – several conversations with other bloggers who think what they have to say “isn’t good enough”. In short – it most certainly is – and as long as you love writing it, the rest will fall into place. Cheers buddy!

  15. I love this post, Matt! It made me laugh first, but you are SO right. It’s the reason we’re all out here blogging, and the reason we keep blogging. Life-changer? Absolutely. The idea of writing a blog for me grew out of getting tired of emailing recipes out every time we had someone over for dinner and they wanted to know how I did it. Now, I’m having conversations with people around the world (and my mom, of course) and what I’m doing in the kitchen. I’m going to conferences and tweet-ups, and loving every minute. Damn right, I’ve got shit to say!

    • Glad to provide a laugh or two – that was the initial intent – and it brings out the point that we really take ourselves far too seriously FAR too often, don’t you agree?

      And I love your attitude, and love hearing that it’s really been a life changer for you as well. I can’t wait to sit down and grab coffee to talk about how much our blogs have changed our lives (and that WILL happen soon, damn it!)

  16. I love this post, Matt! It made me laugh first, but you are SO right. It’s the reason we’re all out here blogging, and the reason we keep blogging. Life-changer? Absolutely. The idea of writing a blog for me grew out of getting tired of emailing recipes out every time we had someone over for dinner and they wanted to know how I did it. Now, I’m having conversations with people around the world (and my mom, of course) and what I’m doing in the kitchen. I’m going to conferences and tweet-ups, and loving every minute. Damn right, I’ve got shit to say!

    • Glad to provide a laugh or two – that was the initial intent – and it brings out the point that we really take ourselves far too seriously FAR too often, don’t you agree?

      And I love your attitude, and love hearing that it’s really been a life changer for you as well. I can’t wait to sit down and grab coffee to talk about how much our blogs have changed our lives (and that WILL happen soon, damn it!)

  17. You and Ash are totally right (I keep typing ‘write’ every time I try to type ‘right’ – it is just so entrenched in me to just WRITE!!) – “it can be the best damn therapy out there.”

    I have learned so much from getting online. About me, about life, about the fabulous people out there! Being Real & Loving Life – that’s what it’s all about!

    Thanks to both of you!

    • Thanks for the comment (and for coming by my neck of the woods) Shawna. It all comes down to learning for me – this is one constant, totally awesome learning experience for me. I learn more and more about myself and about life in general every single day…

  18. You and Ash are totally right (I keep typing ‘write’ every time I try to type ‘right’ – it is just so entrenched in me to just WRITE!!) – “it can be the best damn therapy out there.”

    I have learned so much from getting online. About me, about life, about the fabulous people out there! Being Real & Loving Life – that’s what it’s all about!

    Thanks to both of you!

    • Thanks for the comment (and for coming by my neck of the woods) Shawna. It all comes down to learning for me – this is one constant, totally awesome learning experience for me. I learn more and more about myself and about life in general every single day…

  19. Matt,

    I saw this in my RSS reader last night and read it. Love the headline. It immediately caught my attention. Getting yourself back into the mindset of “I have shit to say” instead of thinking about strategies, RSS feeds, plugins, etc, etc is a great way to reconnect to the purity of your writing and why you decided to start blogging in the first place. For the most part we all had thoughts we wanted to share with the world and a blog was a perfect way do do that.

    • Yo Srini – you must’ve been up late last night, eh? All of the numbers and metrics are important (depending on your goals) but don’t even come close to what matters most – you and your passion for writing, communicating, networking, building relationships, making friends, etc. The numbers game and everything else is a distant second to being passionate about what you say and do. Cheers!

      • I am a blog virgin… I knew I wanted to try this and finally tonight I am…I already feel like I am part of the whole “I have shit to say” club… I hope this is as much fun as it looks?!

        • It is a lot of fun Kandis, and if you’re not having fun, something’s wrong (always remember that). Would love to check out your blog – if you happen to come back by here please do share the URL for your own blog. God speed and good luck!

  20. Matt,

    I saw this in my RSS reader last night and read it. Love the headline. It immediately caught my attention. Getting yourself back into the mindset of “I have shit to say” instead of thinking about strategies, RSS feeds, plugins, etc, etc is a great way to reconnect to the purity of your writing and why you decided to start blogging in the first place. For the most part we all had thoughts we wanted to share with the world and a blog was a perfect way do do that.

    • Yo Srini – you must’ve been up late last night, eh? All of the numbers and metrics are important (depending on your goals) but don’t even come close to what matters most – you and your passion for writing, communicating, networking, building relationships, making friends, etc. The numbers game and everything else is a distant second to being passionate about what you say and do. Cheers!

      • I am a blog virgin… I knew I wanted to try this and finally tonight I am…I already feel like I am part of the whole “I have shit to say” club… I hope this is as much fun as it looks?!

        • It is a lot of fun Kandis, and if you’re not having fun, something’s wrong (always remember that). Would love to check out your blog – if you happen to come back by here please do share the URL for your own blog. God speed and good luck!

  21. Great point.

    So many people are looking to monetize their blogs or make an easy passive income but they overlook the real value of blogging: It makes you a better person. Just connecting with like minded people is worth the effort. A little money on the side wouldn’t hurt, but blogging is helping me build relationships with cool people all over the planet.

    You + Blog = Better You

    • Don’t discount the fact that the blog is still a tool that can indirectly make you money. Matt will be the first to tell you this. Those relationships you’re building are probably generating business for you in one way or another, as a result of the blog. Otherwise, you’d probably use other channels that were more effective.

      • Hi Tim,

        Thanks again for continuing the conversation. I appreciate your effort.

        I agree that blogs can be a great way to build relationships that will later generate business. I have profit oriented sites that I am working on.

        I just don’t think that every relationship needs to be monetized. I don’t need nor want to make money off of my true friends. Not every interaction needs to be a financial transaction.

        I am not sure if there is a more effective way to connect with dispersed like minded people than blogging. What would that be?

        • I completely agree with you here John (and I know Tim does as well). My point in the post above is that a blog can really springboard SO MANY different opportunities. My example is that over the past year I have been able to “start a business” that only came about because of what I’ve done here on my blog, the relationships I’ve made, etc. MattChevy.com wouldn’t exist if hadn’t started Life Without Pants.

          No, I do not see my friendships and relationships as a way to make a buck – but the two can go hand in hand over time. I believe that the foundation of ANY good business, regardless of industry or market, is founded in RELATIONSHIPS. What started as a blog for me has turned into a platform of conversation, collaboration, and much, much more.

          You won’t find a much bigger advocate out there of “why you should start a blog”.

          • What Matt said :)

            I didn’t meet Matt with the intention of making money off him. He’s a great friend and I much more enjoy our adventures galavanting the streets of downtown Chicago in search of a karaoke bar that isn’t packed. Any business we do is a bonus; not the focus our of friendship.

            • Hey John, Tim, and Matt:

              First, the article itself is brilliant!

              In particular, this comment thread underpins the epic shit vs. shit battle (IMHO). There’s good shit – the kind Matt describes – that fuels passion, creates meaning, inspires greatness, promotes positive lifestyles, fosters learning, etc. Then there’s bad shit – the stinky, foul kind – that promotes greed, sells “get-rich-quick” fantasies, lacks goodwill, imitates good shit (or tries to), and otherwise makes a mess of the place.

              While good shit vs. bad shit rages in all markets and channels, I believe it’s more prevalent in blogging due to (1) the extremely low barriers to entry plus (2) virtually no regulation (aside from the community itself). Anyone can pitch a “get-rich-quick” (or “get-healthy-quick” – my personal arch nemesis) pipe dream.

              Which leads me to this – we good shitters need to amp it up. We need to keep saying (and sharing) our good shit, because, well, good shit can change the world. We also need to call bullshit on all the stinky poo.

              Kudos to all!

              Cheers!
              Matt

              • Haha, great comment Matt. I’m keeping a tally of how many times “shit” is said throughout the post + comments. The goal? Show up on page 1 of Google under “Shit”…wait, that might not be such a good thing!

                You’re right though, on all accounts – there is clearly a defining line between good and bad shit – and while my shit may stink every now and then (no one’s perfect), I hope that, for the most part, my shit smells pretty fresh…

                I think I just blew my own mind :)

  22. Great point.

    So many people are looking to monetize their blogs or make an easy passive income but they overlook the real value of blogging: It makes you a better person. Just connecting with like minded people is worth the effort. A little money on the side wouldn’t hurt, but blogging is helping me build relationships with cool people all over the planet.

    You + Blog = Better You

    • Don’t discount the fact that the blog is still a tool that can indirectly make you money. Matt will be the first to tell you this. Those relationships you’re building are probably generating business for you in one way or another, as a result of the blog. Otherwise, you’d probably use other channels that were more effective.

      • Hi Tim,

        Thanks again for continuing the conversation. I appreciate your effort.

        I agree that blogs can be a great way to build relationships that will later generate business. I have profit oriented sites that I am working on.

        I just don’t think that every relationship needs to be monetized. I don’t need nor want to make money off of my true friends. Not every interaction needs to be a financial transaction.

        I am not sure if there is a more effective way to connect with dispersed like minded people than blogging. What would that be?

        • I completely agree with you here John (and I know Tim does as well). My point in the post above is that a blog can really springboard SO MANY different opportunities. My example is that over the past year I have been able to “start a business” that only came about because of what I’ve done here on my blog, the relationships I’ve made, etc. MattChevy.com wouldn’t exist if hadn’t started Life Without Pants.

          No, I do not see my friendships and relationships as a way to make a buck – but the two can go hand in hand over time. I believe that the foundation of ANY good business, regardless of industry or market, is founded in RELATIONSHIPS. What started as a blog for me has turned into a platform of conversation, collaboration, and much, much more.

          You won’t find a much bigger advocate out there of “why you should start a blog”.

          • What Matt said :)

            I didn’t meet Matt with the intention of making money off him. He’s a great friend and I much more enjoy our adventures galavanting the streets of downtown Chicago in search of a karaoke bar that isn’t packed. Any business we do is a bonus; not the focus our of friendship.

            • Hey John, Tim, and Matt:

              First, the article itself is brilliant!

              In particular, this comment thread underpins the epic shit vs. shit battle (IMHO). There’s good shit – the kind Matt describes – that fuels passion, creates meaning, inspires greatness, promotes positive lifestyles, fosters learning, etc. Then there’s bad shit – the stinky, foul kind – that promotes greed, sells “get-rich-quick” fantasies, lacks goodwill, imitates good shit (or tries to), and otherwise makes a mess of the place.

              While good shit vs. bad shit rages in all markets and channels, I believe it’s more prevalent in blogging due to (1) the extremely low barriers to entry plus (2) virtually no regulation (aside from the community itself). Anyone can pitch a “get-rich-quick” (or “get-healthy-quick” – my personal arch nemesis) pipe dream.

              Which leads me to this – we good shitters need to amp it up. We need to keep saying (and sharing) our good shit, because, well, good shit can change the world. We also need to call bullshit on all the stinky poo.

              Kudos to all!

              Cheers!
              Matt

              • Haha, great comment Matt. I’m keeping a tally of how many times “shit” is said throughout the post + comments. The goal? Show up on page 1 of Google under “Shit”…wait, that might not be such a good thing!

                You’re right though, on all accounts – there is clearly a defining line between good and bad shit – and while my shit may stink every now and then (no one’s perfect), I hope that, for the most part, my shit smells pretty fresh…

                I think I just blew my own mind :)

  23. I love this: “If you let it, if you aren’t afraid to say “shit” – even if sometimes it sounds ridiculous, or no one understands it, or no one reads it but you (and your mom) – a blog can be a game changer – it can be your gateway to opportunities you didn’t even know existed – it can lead you to new career opportunities, it can push you to start your own business, and it can be the best damn therapy out there.” — For me personally, that’s exactly it. I didn’t really know if people would tune in, and frankly at the time I didn’t really care. I wanted a place to house my thoughts, idea and ramblings and eventually, I hoped to be heard. It’s definitely been a game changer on a career level as well. My current employer has seen my blog and this has prompted them to highly consider (and hopefully soon develop) our very own corporate blog–finally. While I’m certainly no expert on blogging, it’s the best decision I’ve made in a while. Thanks Matt.

    • Thank YOU for sharing Laurie. NEVER lose track of that passion you have – that desire to express yourself, regardless of what other people may think. If you maintain that, the sky’s the limit for what your blog can and WILL become. Cheers!

  24. I love this: “If you let it, if you aren’t afraid to say “shit” – even if sometimes it sounds ridiculous, or no one understands it, or no one reads it but you (and your mom) – a blog can be a game changer – it can be your gateway to opportunities you didn’t even know existed – it can lead you to new career opportunities, it can push you to start your own business, and it can be the best damn therapy out there.” — For me personally, that’s exactly it. I didn’t really know if people would tune in, and frankly at the time I didn’t really care. I wanted a place to house my thoughts, idea and ramblings and eventually, I hoped to be heard. It’s definitely been a game changer on a career level as well. My current employer has seen my blog and this has prompted them to highly consider (and hopefully soon develop) our very own corporate blog–finally. While I’m certainly no expert on blogging, it’s the best decision I’ve made in a while. Thanks Matt.

    • Thank YOU for sharing Laurie. NEVER lose track of that passion you have – that desire to express yourself, regardless of what other people may think. If you maintain that, the sky’s the limit for what your blog can and WILL become. Cheers!

  25. I think it becomes rocket science for some of us to keep saying our shit, because whenever we get a dip in the traffic, we start worrying about the SEO, SMO and other such factors and sometimes get really tensed.
    But that is just not the point, if we value the connections and keep inspiring ourselves as your post @copyblogger states, we’ll keep up with it.
    Thanks for sharing some cool words again…….

    • It’s no easy task to keep things going, to maintain a steady pace, not a tall. And it’s not even easy to stay inspired as a writer – we’re all going to face writer’s block from time to time. But, if you focus on what matters most (the writing) and surround yourself with other inspirational tools (people, blogs, books, etc) – safe to say you won’t be running out of ideas anytime soon…

  26. I think it becomes rocket science for some of us to keep saying our shit, because whenever we get a dip in the traffic, we start worrying about the SEO, SMO and other such factors and sometimes get really tensed.
    But that is just not the point, if we value the connections and keep inspiring ourselves as your post @copyblogger states, we’ll keep up with it.
    Thanks for sharing some cool words again…….

    • It’s no easy task to keep things going, to maintain a steady pace, not a tall. And it’s not even easy to stay inspired as a writer – we’re all going to face writer’s block from time to time. But, if you focus on what matters most (the writing) and surround yourself with other inspirational tools (people, blogs, books, etc) – safe to say you won’t be running out of ideas anytime soon…

  27. Having shit to say definately is a good way to start a blog. Not only does it let you say shit but it also teaches how to put your shit to words. (Okay, enough with the S word …)

    But seriously, blogging has indeed made a huge impact on my life. Through blogging you come into contact with other bloggers and through them you learn new things you otherwise would have never been able to find out.

    Yes a blog can make you money, but not by itself. Only if you really have something to say that people want to hear AND you back it up with a business you can make money. It’s not just slapping on a couble of ads and hoping for the best. Of course I’ve made myself guilty of this way of monetizing but there are better, far better ways out there that my blog just won’t lend itself to. Even so, if my blog never made a cent I would keep blogging, just to keep in touch and have a platform to write my S*** down so others can read and get talking.

    • Good points here. To your comment on a blog making you money – I actually NEVER plan to throw up ads on Life Without Pants itself – at least not in the foreseeable future. I think once you start advertising, you become something different. Instead, and as I have done very much so in the past, I’ll continue to use my blog as a platform of collaboration, community, and profitability (in other ways). MattChevy.com is a direct result of the community that continues to develop here. There’s no limit to what a blog and community can do for you….

  28. Having shit to say definately is a good way to start a blog. Not only does it let you say shit but it also teaches how to put your shit to words. (Okay, enough with the S word …)

    But seriously, blogging has indeed made a huge impact on my life. Through blogging you come into contact with other bloggers and through them you learn new things you otherwise would have never been able to find out.

    Yes a blog can make you money, but not by itself. Only if you really have something to say that people want to hear AND you back it up with a business you can make money. It’s not just slapping on a couble of ads and hoping for the best. Of course I’ve made myself guilty of this way of monetizing but there are better, far better ways out there that my blog just won’t lend itself to. Even so, if my blog never made a cent I would keep blogging, just to keep in touch and have a platform to write my S*** down so others can read and get talking.

    • Good points here. To your comment on a blog making you money – I actually NEVER plan to throw up ads on Life Without Pants itself – at least not in the foreseeable future. I think once you start advertising, you become something different. Instead, and as I have done very much so in the past, I’ll continue to use my blog as a platform of collaboration, community, and profitability (in other ways). MattChevy.com is a direct result of the community that continues to develop here. There’s no limit to what a blog and community can do for you….

  29. Word.

    One of the hardest parts of blogging is removing the filter and just saying what you want to say. (I mean, without going to extremes.)

    This post nails it.

  30. Word.

    One of the hardest parts of blogging is removing the filter and just saying what you want to say. (I mean, without going to extremes.)

    This post nails it.

  31. Nice post John. I think often times we are worried about what others might think of what we have to say. But a lot people think like this and write artificially. I try to blog in a way where I’m talking with the reader rather than at the reader; and even though this hard, I still try to my best and keep on improving it. I like what you’ve written here because by putting out your mind, whether others will like it or not, it separates yourself from other writers who are afraid to voice their true inner opinions, making your blog stand out from others.

    • (I’m assuming you meant Matt, not John). Your mantra is pure here – talk WITH your readers, not at them. I love writing posts, but not nearly as much as what I’m doing right now, going through the comments, meeting new people, making new connections, and having healthy conversation and debate. It’s down here where all the magic happens. Cheers!

  32. Nice post John. I think often times we are worried about what others might think of what we have to say. But a lot people think like this and write artificially. I try to blog in a way where I’m talking with the reader rather than at the reader; and even though this hard, I still try to my best and keep on improving it. I like what you’ve written here because by putting out your mind, whether others will like it or not, it separates yourself from other writers who are afraid to voice their true inner opinions, making your blog stand out from others.

    • (I’m assuming you meant Matt, not John). Your mantra is pure here – talk WITH your readers, not at them. I love writing posts, but not nearly as much as what I’m doing right now, going through the comments, meeting new people, making new connections, and having healthy conversation and debate. It’s down here where all the magic happens. Cheers!

  33. I have kept a diary since I was 11. Probably even when I was younger than that, but the earliest entry I can find is from the year before my Bat Mitzvah. Age 11. I started my blog almost a year ago and I still maintain my diary. There are certain things that I don’t need the internet to know, there are certain opinions that I don’t need to hear from the internet, there are certain times when I just want to write, to no one.

    But, there are other times, more frequently, where I want to write for EVERYONE. There are certain experiences I go through that I know other people relate to and can weigh in on. I’ve met some great people through my blog. I’ve staying in contact with family and friends through my blog. I write through my blog to create conversations, build relationships, and do my part in affecting lives. That’s what’s great about a blog. Everyone should have one :)

    • Couldn’t agree more here Lauren – and it’s perfectly OK to keep a personal diary – there’s plenty I would rather keep to myself than share with the world here, but I also don’t ever feel like I’m holding myself back, which is really important. Thanks for coming by and adding a little perspective :)

  34. I have kept a diary since I was 11. Probably even when I was younger than that, but the earliest entry I can find is from the year before my Bat Mitzvah. Age 11. I started my blog almost a year ago and I still maintain my diary. There are certain things that I don’t need the internet to know, there are certain opinions that I don’t need to hear from the internet, there are certain times when I just want to write, to no one.

    But, there are other times, more frequently, where I want to write for EVERYONE. There are certain experiences I go through that I know other people relate to and can weigh in on. I’ve met some great people through my blog. I’ve staying in contact with family and friends through my blog. I write through my blog to create conversations, build relationships, and do my part in affecting lives. That’s what’s great about a blog. Everyone should have one :)

    • Couldn’t agree more here Lauren – and it’s perfectly OK to keep a personal diary – there’s plenty I would rather keep to myself than share with the world here, but I also don’t ever feel like I’m holding myself back, which is really important. Thanks for coming by and adding a little perspective :)

  35. “Even if sometimes it sounds ridiculous, or no one understands it, or no one reads it but you (and your mom).”

    This is the crux of it. My personal blog still doesn’t get a ton of traffic. I don’t care that it does. I love creative writing, and I just like to scribble out in public. It’s not supposed to be attention getting…it’s just something I can enjoy at the end of a day and relax, scribbling a scene in my head just for fun.

  36. “Even if sometimes it sounds ridiculous, or no one understands it, or no one reads it but you (and your mom).”

    This is the crux of it. My personal blog still doesn’t get a ton of traffic. I don’t care that it does. I love creative writing, and I just like to scribble out in public. It’s not supposed to be attention getting…it’s just something I can enjoy at the end of a day and relax, scribbling a scene in my head just for fun.

  37. I blog occasionally when I have a funny story to tell, or behind the scene info about the experiences I have had with the band, or even personally. I am a little older; have lived many lives and had experiences that were romantic, wonderful, extraordinary and I hope my loyal readers will enjoy the tales of my life in the arts and beyond. I try to keep my ramblings down to a paragraph or two, as we all have a lot to do, and I don’t wish to take up too much of your time. I hope you enjoy what I write, as my purpose is to delight and entertain. Catch my blogs at :
    myspace.com/highandoutside.

  38. I blog occasionally when I have a funny story to tell, or behind the scene info about the experiences I have had with the band, or even personally. I am a little older; have lived many lives and had experiences that were romantic, wonderful, extraordinary and I hope my loyal readers will enjoy the tales of my life in the arts and beyond. I try to keep my ramblings down to a paragraph or two, as we all have a lot to do, and I don’t wish to take up too much of your time. I hope you enjoy what I write, as my purpose is to delight and entertain. Catch my blogs at :
    myspace.com/highandoutside.

  39. I started my blog because I was documenting trying to land a full time entry level job plus to demonstrate some knowledge like EVERY career expert will tell you to do. I got away from it and then I had fear set in. You are right and you should write for yourself. I am in a transition and part of me is scared but I need to get over it. I need to get back to writing my blog and write everything which goes through my head at night. I know I tweet enough about it.

    • It’s funny you should mention that because that’s very much what Life Without Pants started as for me. If you dive back into the first few months of the archives, you’ll see that my targeted “Social Media Marketing” writing was an attempt to land me a job in Chicago (as I was in the process of moving here) – That quickly changed as I saw my focus becoming overly narrow and now…well, I don’t know what this is, but I love every minute of it!

  40. I started my blog because I was documenting trying to land a full time entry level job plus to demonstrate some knowledge like EVERY career expert will tell you to do. I got away from it and then I had fear set in. You are right and you should write for yourself. I am in a transition and part of me is scared but I need to get over it. I need to get back to writing my blog and write everything which goes through my head at night. I know I tweet enough about it.

    • It’s funny you should mention that because that’s very much what Life Without Pants started as for me. If you dive back into the first few months of the archives, you’ll see that my targeted “Social Media Marketing” writing was an attempt to land me a job in Chicago (as I was in the process of moving here) – That quickly changed as I saw my focus becoming overly narrow and now…well, I don’t know what this is, but I love every minute of it!

  41. Matt, I don’t disagree with you that bloggers blog because we do have shit to say and we’re not afraid to say it. BUT for whatever reason I felt that this post was a bit pompus and elitist. Just sayin’.. still good effort though.

    • I hear you and appreciate the feedback – was there anything in particular that made you feel that way? This was very much a recap of a conversation and a point to be taken for all writers out there who think what they have to say “isn’t good enough” that it is, in fact more than good enough. That what I, or anyone else here has to say is no better. So if it came across as pompous, I assure you that was not the intent.

  42. Matt, I don’t disagree with you that bloggers blog because we do have shit to say and we’re not afraid to say it. BUT for whatever reason I felt that this post was a bit pompus and elitist. Just sayin’.. still good effort though.

    • I hear you and appreciate the feedback – was there anything in particular that made you feel that way? This was very much a recap of a conversation and a point to be taken for all writers out there who think what they have to say “isn’t good enough” that it is, in fact more than good enough. That what I, or anyone else here has to say is no better. So if it came across as pompous, I assure you that was not the intent.

  43. It’s funny, a lot of people who know me IRL think I’m pretty quiet. Little do they know that I’ve got a lot of shit to say, and I just choose to “say it” through the written word. I started blogging because I wanted to share my words with the world. Now, people read what I have to say on a regular basis. They connect to it and it means something to them. Truly amazing, and one of many reasons why I love this blogosphere.

    Side note: Love the post art :)

    • I think a lot of folks fall into that category – of maybe not being overly extroverted in “real life” but can use their blog as a way to really express themselves. I’m pretty outgoing on both areas – but when I started this, it was the creative outlet I needed that I wasn’t getting in my nine to five, so I agree with you that a blog can serve as that “release” – whatever that may be.

  44. Thanks for the post Matt! I’m currently not blogging, but I’ve been spending a lot of time lately thinking about whether I want to start a blog. This post might have sealed the deal for me.

    For a while, my thought was, “Why start a blog?” Is anyone gonna read it? Does anyone care!? Now I’m realizing maybe I should be asking, “Why not?” ‘Cause I got shit to say, and share… even if it is just shit.

    • Good thinking Bill. And, will anyone read it right away? Probably not, you have to let folks know you’re out there – but as long as you love doing it, that’s all that matters – and along the way, you’ll meet a lot of amazing people, your community will grow…no end to the potential. Hope you take the leap and get things started up!

  45. It’s funny, a lot of people who know me IRL think I’m pretty quiet. Little do they know that I’ve got a lot of shit to say, and I just choose to “say it” through the written word. I started blogging because I wanted to share my words with the world. Now, people read what I have to say on a regular basis. They connect to it and it means something to them. Truly amazing, and one of many reasons why I love this blogosphere.

    Side note: Love the post art :)

    • I think a lot of folks fall into that category – of maybe not being overly extroverted in “real life” but can use their blog as a way to really express themselves. I’m pretty outgoing on both areas – but when I started this, it was the creative outlet I needed that I wasn’t getting in my nine to five, so I agree with you that a blog can serve as that “release” – whatever that may be.

  46. Thanks for the post Matt! I’m currently not blogging, but I’ve been spending a lot of time lately thinking about whether I want to start a blog. This post might have sealed the deal for me.

    For a while, my thought was, “Why start a blog?” Is anyone gonna read it? Does anyone care!? Now I’m realizing maybe I should be asking, “Why not?” ‘Cause I got shit to say, and share… even if it is just shit.

    • Good thinking Bill. And, will anyone read it right away? Probably not, you have to let folks know you’re out there – but as long as you love doing it, that’s all that matters – and along the way, you’ll meet a lot of amazing people, your community will grow…no end to the potential. Hope you take the leap and get things started up!

  47. Matt, what a great post! So many of us always hold off until we have “shit to say” the “right” way instead of just writing a damn blog post from the heart, uncensored and unrated. Kudos to your passion and no holes barred attitude. We can all learn from you.

    • Thanks Anna – and to be honest, I still consider myself to be much tamer than a lot of folks out there – I speak my mind, but I don’t lay it ALL out there all the time – I want my posts to be personal and I let my personality shine through, but there’s something to be said for tasteful discretion every now and then. It’s a delicate balance – but sometimes I’ll type out a “rant” and will have to go back to, if nothing else, organize everything into coherent thoughts…

  48. Matt, what a great post! So many of us always hold off until we have “shit to say” the “right” way instead of just writing a damn blog post from the heart, uncensored and unrated. Kudos to your passion and no holes barred attitude. We can all learn from you.

    • Thanks Anna – and to be honest, I still consider myself to be much tamer than a lot of folks out there – I speak my mind, but I don’t lay it ALL out there all the time – I want my posts to be personal and I let my personality shine through, but there’s something to be said for tasteful discretion every now and then. It’s a delicate balance – but sometimes I’ll type out a “rant” and will have to go back to, if nothing else, organize everything into coherent thoughts…

  49. I started my blog/website because I felt that positive and inspiring messages for the LGBT community needed a much stronger web presence. So, yeah, I definitely got a lot to say that hasn’t been said before. It has, but no one has ever put it out there.

    • It’s OK to say what’s been said – just give it a little bit of your own perspective. You are spreading a powerful message and we need more advocates of awareness and change out there like you. Cheers!

  50. I started my blog/website because I felt that positive and inspiring messages for the LGBT community needed a much stronger web presence. So, yeah, I definitely got a lot to say that hasn’t been said before. It has, but no one has ever put it out there.

    • It’s OK to say what’s been said – just give it a little bit of your own perspective. You are spreading a powerful message and we need more advocates of awareness and change out there like you. Cheers!

  51. I actually asked myself that very question while walking my dogs today (“Why do I blog?”), and I came up with the exact same thing.

    I *do* have shit to say… even if nobody else really gives a damn.

    Thanks for saying it here.

  52. I actually asked myself that very question while walking my dogs today (“Why do I blog?”), and I came up with the exact same thing.

    I *do* have shit to say… even if nobody else really gives a damn.

    Thanks for saying it here.

  53. Matt, great topic. My purpose of blogging is two fold. One, to get me more discipline in the learning development field as that’s a career transition I am presently working on – and to keep me dedicated to this career transition. The other, I’ve been through a lot and somehow I have discovered (just recently), that if I’m not careful, I’m always one of those people that are always left in charge of a project or part of a project – due to strong leadership skills, so I’ve been told. The blog is a way for me to take a look at my own leadership skills, share what I have learned, and to also improve my own leading (introspective reflections).

    • Great stuff Bryon – the “learning” element is the key selling point for me, and it’s what keeps me interested and engaged – constantly meeting new people, learning from them, sharing ideas…you name it. As long as you’re learning, you’re living – and blogging is a great way to do just that.

  54. Matt, great topic. My purpose of blogging is two fold. One, to get me more discipline in the learning development field as that’s a career transition I am presently working on – and to keep me dedicated to this career transition. The other, I’ve been through a lot and somehow I have discovered (just recently), that if I’m not careful, I’m always one of those people that are always left in charge of a project or part of a project – due to strong leadership skills, so I’ve been told. The blog is a way for me to take a look at my own leadership skills, share what I have learned, and to also improve my own leading (introspective reflections).

    • Great stuff Bryon – the “learning” element is the key selling point for me, and it’s what keeps me interested and engaged – constantly meeting new people, learning from them, sharing ideas…you name it. As long as you’re learning, you’re living – and blogging is a great way to do just that.

  55. Hey Matt,

    Simple and profound makes for a good blog post. You’re right if you forget why you’re doing it or lose direction the very foundation of why you blog is to share your thoughts in hope that those thoughts help people as well as yourself.

    I know sometimes I reflect on my blog and wonder if it represents my true identity and is aligned with what I am passionate about sharing. I guess if you are saying the shit you have to say…it’s gonna be authentically you.

    • Hey Brenton – how you been man? Was just thinking about you and your blog today – trying to knock out the last leg of my “Guest Post Tour” and you’re on deck for one very soon.

      I think it’s only natural to question our “blogging identity” – I did this A LOT very early on, as my goals then were much different than they are now. But the most important thing is not letting that “unknown” keep you from starting – so many question and doubt themselves from the beginning and they can never overcome that. Just be you – and don’t worry about knowing it all – you never will but at least you’ll figure things out as you go. Cheers!

      • Can’t to get wait to have the guest post bus to make its stop over at the blog!

        You just sparked some inspiration for a blog post! I’ll make sure you know when it’s up :)

        Also…congrats with the start of your new company…In the short amount of time I’ve been around I’ve noticed that with special people unfortunate occurrences typically lead to much better opportunities. No doubt that’s true with you!

        • Please do. Look forward to reading your post and getting you a guest post of my own. Also, thanks for the kudos buddy – things have been going well thus far, just have to keep hustling, you know? Have a good one!

  56. Hey Matt,

    Simple and profound makes for a good blog post. You’re right if you forget why you’re doing it or lose direction the very foundation of why you blog is to share your thoughts in hope that those thoughts help people as well as yourself.

    I know sometimes I reflect on my blog and wonder if it represents my true identity and is aligned with what I am passionate about sharing. I guess if you are saying the shit you have to say…it’s gonna be authentically you.

    • Hey Brenton – how you been man? Was just thinking about you and your blog today – trying to knock out the last leg of my “Guest Post Tour” and you’re on deck for one very soon.

      I think it’s only natural to question our “blogging identity” – I did this A LOT very early on, as my goals then were much different than they are now. But the most important thing is not letting that “unknown” keep you from starting – so many question and doubt themselves from the beginning and they can never overcome that. Just be you – and don’t worry about knowing it all – you never will but at least you’ll figure things out as you go. Cheers!

      • Can’t to get wait to have the guest post bus to make its stop over at the blog!

        You just sparked some inspiration for a blog post! I’ll make sure you know when it’s up :)

        Also…congrats with the start of your new company…In the short amount of time I’ve been around I’ve noticed that with special people unfortunate occurrences typically lead to much better opportunities. No doubt that’s true with you!

        • Please do. Look forward to reading your post and getting you a guest post of my own. Also, thanks for the kudos buddy – things have been going well thus far, just have to keep hustling, you know? Have a good one!