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I Don’t Know How

I don’t know how to make $100 million dollars. But I do know how to hustle and do exceptional work today that will lead to more work tomorrow.

I don’t know how to make other’s see my way of thinking on equality. But I do know that I can use the platform(s) I’ve developed to share the messages that are important to me.

I don’t know how to run a marathon in 4 hours, but I do know that it’ll take stepping outside and going for a run this morning to get there.

I don’t know how to believe in one religion, but I do know how to be curious. How to question and discover a faith that works best for me.

I didn’t know how to start a business, but I did. I never believed I’d find a woman who would love me even half as much as I love her, but I did. I never thought I’d be able to call myself a homeowner, a marathoner, or an entrepreneur at age 26, but I can. 

“I don’t know how” holds us back from doing what we want to be doing. We let can/cannot hold us back from want/need. We’re unsure of the outcome – we don’t want to get burned – we’re terrified, absolutely terrified of failing, so we never take the first step.

But as my good friend Melissa said recently:

“Do not tell yourself that you don’t know how to make it all happen. That is a given, and frankly, irrelevant. NO ONE has the HOW when they step outside of what they know. You figure it out by immersion. You research. You hustle. You get insight from smart and inspiring people. You stay curious. You put in a ridiculous number of hours. And you work hard.” 

A funny thing happens when you take the leap. When you embrace the “now”. When you do something daring. You figure things out.

It isn’t always pretty, in fact sometimes it’ll be downright ugly. Taking that leap toward something when you don’t know how it’ll turn out can (and will) at times leave you depressed, frustrated, angry, and confused.

But more than anything, with every negative emotion, it will build something within you that cannot be underestimated…

Desire. Determination. Faith. Hope. Confidence.

That’s when “I don’t know how” stops holding you back, and starts propelling your forward.

When I look back at all that I’ve accomplished so far, there has been no secret formula, no resounding lessons to be shared so others can follow in my footsteps.

It all circles back to not knowing the outcome, but knowing how to take the first step.

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  1. Hi Matt

    I read every article you post, and just want to say a big thank you! They are so motivating and have really, personally helped me figure  out a lot of things and have given me that boost to do something instead of just waiting around for things to just happen by themselves. There are, and will always be “what ifs” and  “one day I will”..etc.. which prevent you from trying things..but you said it, we really wont know UNTIL we TRY.  So thanks again :)

  2. Oooooh!! Favorite line in here: “That’s when “I don’t know how” stops holding you back, and starts propelling your forward.”

    SOOO good!! And so true!

    The way you wrote that helped solidify for me that there are essentially two kinds of people: 

    1) Those who use “I don’t know how” to propel them forward. 
    2) Those who use “I don’t know how” to hold them back. 

    We are all capable of being in group #1. And it’s people like you, Matt, who convey these messages so well – helping others to make the necessary shifts in perception in order to achieve their big goals and dreams. 

    Love it.

  3. Knowing you don’t know is the first step to finding your true way.  Assume you’re wrong and do it anyway, because it’s what you need to do to be an actualized version of yourself. Knowing you’re wrong and will keep being wrong until you’re right is the path to getting it right. 

  4. Hi Matt,I like the name of your blog: Life Without Pants.

    It’s a sign of our time that it probably wouldn’t work as irreverently and humorously well for a woman sharing similar messages, but I think it’s a great platform for you. It works a treat!