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Are You A Fighter?

I’m a fighter. Not a real fighter – I’ve never been in an “actual” fight (call it not wanting to get my ass kicked). But a fighter in the metaphorical sense of the word.

I got fired from my job in January - but even before that day, I was fighting for a better life – a life in which I could feel more personally fulfilled – that day in January was my “tipping point” – it changed everything and every day since I’ve hustled and pushed myself to do more, work hard and be at my best.

When a boxer steps into the ring, he knows he’s going to get the snot beat out of him. And he (or she) is okay with that. Why? Because they’re fighters. They know their are going to be bumps in the road, bloody noses, cracked ribs – but they love what they do – it’s what they’ve signed up for – and that drives them, motivates them, to be at their best.

That day in January was my “tipping point” – it was the scene in Rocky 2 when Appollo and Rocky are both trying to stand up and Rocky makes it to his feet just before the bell rings.

Since then, I’ve kept fighting – kept pushing forward – striving to be at my best, taking on new challenges and finding out what I’m capable of, what I’m good at, and what’s best left for others to handle. Through the ups and downs, the Clubber Langs and the Dragos, even the Tommy Guns, at 25 years old I’m in a better place today than I’ve ever been.

Does that make me so different from you? Probably not. But it’s the atttude of being a fighter, embracing challenges and obstacles, and continuing to put my best foot forward in the face of adversity that has directly contributed to my success. It’s led me to a where I am today. A beautiful wife, a beautiful job, and a beautiful life.

That’s the beauty of continuing to fight when everyone else is telling you to throw in the towel. That’s the beauty in being different.

Are you a fighter? What obstacles have you overcome this year? How will you keep “defending your title” in 2011?

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  1. This blog post should have its own theme music. Great post! So many people give up the ghost in daily life and go about it with all the motions. Love that you make things happen, Matt. Good on ya!

  2. Thanks for the post Matt. Obstacles are difficult, especially when you try to go at them alone.

    Fighting is a tough word to use sometimes. You don’t have to answer this now, and it’s not meant say that people are weak but, What do you do when you’re just tired?

    • A good point – and we’re all going to have those moments when we’re just plain tired – I’m not always “up” – like everyone I have my moments – it’s allowing yourself to be vulnerable while not letting that consume you – a balance, of sorts. For someone like me, someone who always has to have a “project” to work toward, I don’t have to work too hard to find a way to stay motivated and keep that “fighter” mentality. Knowing you, I’d say you’re very much the same way :)

  3. Good stuff, as always. I can compare to your “12 rounder” earlier this year, but I’ve been through a slobberknocker or two and it’s not fun. But, if you are a fighter and believe in your inner strength, you’ll always end up the champ.

    Glad to see you continue to be the one standing with the belt (insert Rocky theme music here).


  4. This is so true. For people like you and me, and nearly all on Twitter :) this is what we do. We fight. We push through. We know there is a better life out there for us…one that makes us happy. We understand the tipping point and have read the book.
    But what I’ve realized is that there are so many people who don’t get that – who will be down on themselves and just look for another crappy job. They are okay with the status quo. I know I’m not. And you definitely are not either. Bravo to having a beautiful life.

    • Amen to that. I think it’s not about being “okay with the status quo” instead, their are a lot of fears, most internal, that hold people back from thinking they can do more with their life, their career, their relationships. I was in that position not too long ago – and since, it’s been a journey of figuring out just how much I AM capable of. Cheers to continuing that journey!

      • Very true. Fear. I’ve heard many say, “I can’t do that.” or “That’ll never work.” or “Do you know how hard it is to do….” I even encountered this when I told a friend I was interested in a PhD – total negativity: “Do you know how hard it is to get in, and then complete it? They do this this and that.” Well DUH, I know it’s HARD. But why can’t I try?
        That’s the difference – they won’t even try…because of fear. You got it!