March 2009

Nobody Likes A Quitter

To quit or not to quit? That is the question

Lately around the blogosphere – there has been a lot of discussion about quitting your job – and there are clearly two very opposite thought processes here. One says you’ll learn everything you need to about a company within the first couple weeks of employment. Others will tell you to wait it out, suck it up, and gain experience. What’s the right thing to do – what should YOU do? Are you currently at the intersection of corporate vs. startup lifestyles not knowing where to turn? It may feel great to pack your bags and say good riddance to structure and conformity, but maybe, just maybe, you should think about the marathon before breaking out into a sprint.

Giving up too soon

Two weeks is not enough time to judge if you’re a fit with a company. You may have a basic feel of the way things are done, but nine times out of ten you haven’t even begun to tap into the position you were hired for. After a few months, you should have a better idea and you can tell whether or not you’ll fit into the culture of the company. Does that mean you should automatically quit if you don’t immediately fall in love with your job? Not at all. Have you looked inward and though ‘maybe it’s not the company, maybe it’s my own state of mind that is inhibiting my success’. Try harder, stick with it, learn from it. If all else fails, you’ll be gaining valuable experience and will be maintaining a steady income.

You invest in them, and they’ll invest in you

The commitment one makes when accepting a job offer is something that is widely discounted overlooked. Think about how hard you worked just to score an interview. You made it through a stack of other resumes – you got through the interview process – the commitment between company and employee is mutual. Maybe the company hasn’t provided a realistic outlook of what the job entails, or maybe your lack of commitment is getting in the way of success. Whatever the case, it’s important to remember that a job is more than a job, it’s a commitment. You have invested your time and effort into the company, and they are in turn trusting you to be efficient and productive – they’re investing in you every couple weeks when you get a paycheck handed to you. Eva makes an outstanding point in her post when she says “A high performer might be able to switch jobs often, but those worth the title do not. Instead, they are committed to the company that has committed to them”.

Stop worrying and start learning

You might hate your job with a passion – but later in life you’ll value the experience you received. Learn something. Maybe it’s realizing what you’re good at – or maybe it’s figuring out what you don’t want to do in life and the right and wrong way to do business. Every experience, both good and bad, will help you grow, it will help shape you and mold you as you continue on your career path. Generation-Y gets a bad rep because of our sense of ‘entitlement‘. We (very early on) will start to think we’re smarter than our supervisors and bosses. Highly doubtful we’re smarter than our counterparts with years of experience on us – rather, more times than not it’s as simple as having a different perspective and core philosophy. It’s important to understand that there is more than one way to run a business – look inward, soak up the knowledge, and use it for your own future benefit.

Getting laid and getting paid

Jumping from job to job may introduce you to a wide array of experience and techniques – but what’s the number one thing employers are looking for? Someone who has shown commitment in their past experiences, both personal and professional. I was asked during the interview for my current position to describe my greatest accomplishment; a pretty intense, in your face question that put me on the spot. I felt my hands tense up, not knowing what to say – only one thing came to mind, so I started talking. I told them story of how I met my girlfriend, how much it had changed me (for the better). I talked about my relationship making me a humble and compassionate person, and explained the commitment and dedication involved in maintaining a successful relationship.

They weren’t asking for relationship advice – it probably wasn’t the answer they were looking for or even hoping for. But it was a clear real-life example showcasing my own reliability, consistency, and commitment: Three things that all employers want in bringing on a new staff member. It was a ‘human’ response, and these ‘real life’ examples may be all you have as you initially enter into the job market – but moving forward, you’ll need professional examples to add credibility. Nothing looks worse that a resume with 7 different 2-month tenures of past work experience. You may not love your job, but odds are, it will benefit you over the long haul. The bottom line, employers want someone they can count on – someone that won’t give up at the first sign of adversity.

An open mind will get you far

In a community full of entrepreneurs and innovative thinkers, why would you listen to someone who is (basically) telling you to suck it up and pay your dues? I want to start up my own company as much as the next guy – but with that said, make the best of every situation, as trying as it may be – I guarantee every work experience will help you learn and grow as an individual. While it may feel good to be liberated and free, there is a lot to be said for a person who shows commitment and poise, even through adversity. Who knows, maybe you’ll prove to yourself that your initial judgement was wrong. Don’t lose track of what you want and where you want to be in life, but don’t be afraid to face inconvenience and difficulty with an open mind and your chin held high. Continue to learn and in the end, you’ll end up exactly where you want to be.

Yesterday, I wrote about the idea of demonization, and that it’s harder to objectify, disagree with, or hate something once you get to know it better. I stressed the importance of transparency, opening up, and the value of engaging and interacting with people around you. To show that I am an advocate of my own beliefs (I practice what I preach folks), I am reaching out to you guys to let me know what topics and ideas you would like to see discussed.

Today, I am introducing a tool that will provide all of you an outlet to ask me question or suggest a blog topic that you would like to see covered here at Life Without Pants. No this is not a desperate cry for blog topics, I have a bottomless pit of ideas, but I really want to inspire and promote community interactivity and involvement, because without you guys, I would just be a lonely blogger. What interests you? What are you curious about? Maybe you just have something you would like a totally new and unique perspective on. Whatever it is, I want to know about it – and I’m asking you to tell me!

Head over to the Submit A Topic page and send something my way today!

Thank you, as always, for being a part of the community and helping to promote a more diverse and interactive community environment!

GREEN WEEK CONTEST WINNERS:

Grand Prize: @libertydesign [Suzanne]

Second Prize: @JunLoayza [Jun]

Third Prize: @modite [Rebecca]

Congratulations to these three fine individuals. And a special thanks to everyone who got involved in ‘Green Week’. You guys rock! Hopefully I shed some light on some (simple) ways you can make a positive impact on the environment.

Winners were chosen via Google chat random drawing (thanks to Ryan Paugh for helping me out).

Why do people hate what they do not understand?

As a society – we tend to not be accepting of things we don’t understand. Others beliefs, lifestyles, ideas, and so on. Is it based on fear? Are we inherintely afraid of what we do not understand? Why do we shy away from what we can’t explain – or the things we may not agree with? Wouldn’t society be a much more harmonious and ‘connected’ place if we opened up a little and made an effort to educate ourselves on the entire spectrum, instead of becoming ‘experts’ in one narrow way of thinking? Why are we intolerant of difference?

Seth Godin had this to say on the topic of Demonization:

The closer you get to someone, something, some brand, some organization… the harder it is to demonize it, objectify it or hate it.

So, if you want to not be hated, open up. Let people in. Engage. Interact.

How does this relate to us as bloggers, writers, and entrepreneurs? It comes down to opening up and establishing connections. Being transparent (for the most part) as a blogger is absolutely critical in order to connect with your audience and community. If people don’t understand YOU, they won’t care what you have to say. It takes courage to open up and allow yourself be challenged. You may not agree with everything your community has to say, you’ll likely be faced with criticism along the way, but a writer is nothing without an audience, and a diverse array of opinions makes for an interesting read and much more engaging discussion. The more open you are, and the more you try to understand what you currently do not, odds are – you’ll become much more accepting and you’ll wonder why you hated it or disagreed in the first place.

As entrepreneurs and business people – establishing connections with your consumers is what can and will separate you from the rest. Example: If you open up a coffee shop, will you ever be able to compete with the Starbucks of the world? Probably not, but what you can do is take the time to connect with your community of consumers. Service goes a long way – and it’s important to form intimate connections. Why? It adds to the perceived value of what you’re selling. If people believe in you, if they trust you and understand you better – the support will come naturally. Relationships are the foundation of good business practice. Making money and achieving desired results are, of course, extremely important. But it all starts with a ‘hello’ – it all starts by reaching out and letting people in.

Challenge yourself to look inward

What is something you disagree with? Think about an idea or belief that you don’t understand. Research it, talk to people, engage in discussion. Write about it, blog about it, talk to your friends about it – get a conversation going. Share your own thoughts but remain open-minded – each of us can benefit by becoming more transparent. Insight and knowledge create awareness, understanding, and even compassion.

Abraham Lincoln once said, “I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” Maybe if we all take time to get to know one another, maybe it we took of the ‘pants’ that restrain our beliefs, the world would be a much better place.

Earth Hour 2009

So Earth Hour is tonight (8:30 PM local time, wherever you are). This evening we’re called to turn off our lights, unplug the electronics, and go dark for 60 minutes to spark awareness for climate change. Some of you are probably asking, “What am I supposed to do for a whole hour without the TV, without Twitter and Facebook, without any lights?” Well fear not. Life Without Pants has compiled a comprehensive list of 60 things you can do during the 60 minutes of darkness. Do one, or if you’re feeling really wild – try them all!

  1. Start early. Who said Earth Hour only had to be an hour?
  2. Hand-wash your delicates.
  3. Gather family and friends for a night-picnic.
  4. Harness the combined romance of candlelight and eco-chivalry to pop the question.
  5. Debate whether one hour can trigger social change.
  6. Recite memorized poetry.
  7. Start a game of Monopoly – Then regret it. ‘It’s 4 in the morning Grandma, YOU WIN!’
  8. Go totally 18th-century and play charades by candlelight.
  9. Tell ghost stories. Go down to the basement in a negligee to investigate dark spooky corners.
  10. Debate over favorite mythical creatures. Unicorn, Minotaur, Gryphon, and so on (Unicorn wins every time).
  11. Dig out your Dungeons and Dragons dice for an atmospheric apocalyptic game.
  12. Prove to yourself that yes, you can go 60 minutes without updating your Twitter status.
  13. Take the dog out for a walk.
  14. Boycott venues that are still switched on.
  15. Reminisce about old school Nickelodeon shows and use phrases like ‘they don’t make em’ like they used to’.
  16. Make light masterpieces. Bring out the battery operated LiteBrite and create art with coloured pegs.
  17. Unplug chargers (laptop, cell phone, and so on).
  18. One Word. CLUE. Colonel Mustard, in the library, with the candlestick.
  19. One word: Fondue! You get a great meal, no electricity required.
  20. Cuddle in bed with someone you love (or at least like).
  21. Say to your neighbour, “Dude, this is so Amish.”
  22. Play a game of Chess. Master the ‘En Passant‘.
  23. Take a blanket outside, lay down, and look at the stars.
  24. Question: What will you do once the zombies come? Think about it.
  25. Make streetlight shadow puppets (yes, the streetlights stay on, for safety).
  26. If going out, do your makeup by candlelight. It’s harder than it seems. Pretend it’s eighties punk.
  27. Naked Twister Party? No?
  28. Don’t forget fitness. Practise naked yoga. Ok, last nude activity reference.
  29. Throw an indoor marshmallow roast (use shish-kebab skewers, mini-marshmallows, and a tea light).
  30. Write someone a hand-written letter (it really is a lost art these days).
  31. Take a relaxing bath by candlelight (preferably not alone – that’s how most horror movies start).
  32. Go for a run, or a brisk walk.
  33. Contemplate our dependency on technology. Count how many times you say ‘I should Tweet this’.
  34. Play the spoons while singing Soundgarden’s ‘Spoonman’.
  35. Go over to Mom’s house and look at old, embarrassing baby photos.
  36. Play dress-up in the dark. Don’t wear color-coordinated clothes.
  37. Think about changing a few habits during the other 364 days, 23 hours.
  38. Whistle ‘When the Saints Go Marching In’ over and over for 60 minutes. Yeah, that’s not annoying.
  39. Turn down the heat a couple degrees (and keep it there).
  40. Knit, crochet, quilt, paint, or engage in some other crafty activity.
  41. Start watering you Chia Pet.
  42. Relax, take a nap, or just go ahead and go to bed early.
  43. Read a book by candlelight (or free book light if you happen to be a Snuggie owner).
  44. Talk about how you’re going to watch Twilight for the 7th time after Earth Hour is over.
  45. Soften your ice cream.
  46. Throw away all your hole-y socks.
  47. 99 bottles of beer on the wall, 99 bottles of beer, take one down, pass it around….
  48. Try to come up with a list of 60 things you can do during next year’s Earth Hour. It’s not as easy as it looks!
  49. Master your origami skills.
  50. Build a cool fort out of cushions and blankets.
  51. Tell some ghost stories.
  52. M.A.S.H. your friends.
  53. Bust out the Ouija board, host a séance.
  54. (Another) One Word (or is it two?) – GLOWSTICKS!
  55. Print out this list (before Earth Hour) and read it out loud – should take at least 4-6 minutes to get through.
  56. Unplug appliances you rarely use (or even the coffee pot you use every morning).
  57. Change out your light bulbs to compact fluorescent bulbs.
  58. Invite your friends over for slightly-less illuminated evening of Texas Hold’em.
  59. Take your date somewhere discreet and make out.
  60. Why turn the lights back on? Leave them out for the rest of the night!

What will you do this Earth Hour? Whatever you do – do it in the dark!

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sam davidson

Sam Davidson is an entrepreneur, writer, inspirer (made up word), and all around awesome guy. His company, Cool People Care, motivates people to learn something new every day and challenges everyone to change the world, 5 minutes at a time. Sam is paving the way for social entrepreneurs. A for profit company benefiting non-profits, seeking to continually give back to others, and serving the bottom line of the community. I encourage all of you to visit Cool People Care on the web at www.coolpeoplecare.org – Stop by Sam’s personal blog www.samdavidson.net, and follow him on Twitter: @samdavidson. Odds are you’ll probably learn a thing or two, be motivated to try something new, and make a great friend in the process. Much thanks to Sam for putting this together. You rock dude!

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Take It Off!

So Matt doesn’t like pants. I mean, he named his entire blogging empire (is it an empire yet?) one that encourages pantlessness.

I don’t really like socks. Well, unless they’re really good, like the ones I run in. But I like them because they don’t feel like socks. This is why I take my shoes off as often as I can. It’s also why I rock flip flops, slip-ons, TOMS, and any other kicks that allow me to remove them quickly when appropriate (or not) so as to go about my tasks in sockless and shoeless bliss.

Some people don’t like hats. Some don’t like scarves or even underwear. And, as such, those people don’t wear those things and they’re able to get along fine and perhaps even be more productive in the process.

That’s because accumulation prohibits us from becoming our best selves.

Unless you have Excessive PackRat Disorder (not sure that’s the official medical term), you feel somewhat liberated when cleaning out your closet or getting rid of what’s clogging up your storage space in your garage. And while we’re centuries removed from our nomadic ancestors, we still weren’t meant to carry around a bunch of stuff on this journey called life.

Don’t get me wrong – I own a lot of stuff. And I don’t think I could easily get rid of most of this stuff. Stuff like my laptop, my TV, my bed, my sockless shoes, my couch – you get the picture. But, I’m always pleasantly surprised when I get by with less. In fact, I feel extremely free, unshackled by the things I own, all of which dare to own me right back.

Don’t believe me? Try getting rid of something. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, or even something you’re particularly fond of. In fact, it can be downright neglected and hideous. Do it. Give it to Goodwill. Offer it up for free on Craig’s List. Trash it. Whatever you do, before you go to bed tonight, get rid of one thing.

Take a deep breath. How was that? Feel better?

Here’s the kicker: the fewer things we own, the happier we’ll be. Studies show that one of the biggest factors for personal happiness isn’t the size of our house or our bank accounts. Rather, it’s the length of our commute. So the moral of that story is to downsize and move closer to our job. Then, we’ll be happier. And isn’t that what it’s all about?

By decreasing our consumption, we’ll also help the planet, the very thing that will be stuck with our stuff long after we’re gone (remember: hearses don’t have trailer hitches, so you can’t take your crap with you). Want a better explanation of all that? Watch the Story of Stuff (then read my blog response to it).

In the end, we’ll be happier and so will the planet. So while Matt’s call to live a pantsless life can have many meanings, I’ll take the one that is good for the environment.

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